My crazy ex still stalks me online
I don’t know what to do anymore. I just want to vent out here and maybe get some advice from people.
I (F) have been receiving random texts for the past 6 months from different numbers asking if I’m “available for booking” and how much my rates are. At first I was confused and honestly thought maybe someone just posted my number somewhere as a joke.
But last month, I received another message through WhatsApp, which I only use for work. The person sent me a screenshot of one of my TikTok videos — nothing inappropriate, literally just a normal lip-sync video — along with a link to a website.
I checked the link and found out someone had uploaded multiple compilation videos of my TikToks onto an adult site. The uploads were from October to November 2025. At the end of the videos were screenshots from old video calls with my ex from over 3 years ago, which is how I immediately knew it was him.
The posts also included my full name and phone number, with captions claiming I’m a “walker” and a student sex worker.
For context, we dated for a little over a year when I was just 19 and he was already 24 (I know, I was young and st*pid. Learned my lesson the hard way.) We broke up back in 2023. He was verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive, and he cheated multiple times during the relationship.
I reported everything to our cybercrime unit right away. They told me they can’t actually trace the anonymous account behind the uploads, even though I already told them I have a very strong suspicion of who it is. According to them, the only thing they can really do is request for the posts to be taken down and the accounts banned.
The problem is… it still hasn’t happened.
I checked the site again today and the videos are STILL there despite already filing reports and providing evidence. The whole process has felt painfully slow and honestly really discouraging.
What scares me the most is that we still live in the same city, and I genuinely don’t know how far this obsession goes. I constantly feel anxious wondering if he knows where I live now or if he’s keeping tabs on me somehow. Every random text or unknown number makes me panic.
The weirdest part is that as far as I know, he already has a girlfriend now. Meanwhile, I’m literally getting married soon and trying to move on with my life peacefully, so I genuinely don’t understand why he’s still so obsessed with ruining me years later.
I honestly feel exhausted and violated at this point. I don’t even know how long this has been going on behind my back or how many people have seen it. I’ve changed numbers before, blocked countless accounts, and tried to move on with my life, but somehow he still finds ways to harass me years later.
And what makes everything even more frustrating is feeling like I’m stuck waiting while the authorities move so slowly. I know investigations take time, especially online cases, but it’s hard not to feel helpless when the content is still up and people can still access it while I’m just waiting for updates.
Has anyone dealt with something similar before? What else can I even do legally or practically at this point?