In-laws finally leaving! How to ensure it's as smooth as possible?
My traditional Chinese in-laws are finally moving after years of 0 progress on their new house. This is almost a Success post tbh.
Since I moved into my husband's house, his family lives here too. The idea was that they leave in max 2 years. This turned into 4 and no ending in sight.
My SIL lives here too, even though she is 30, has a good job, a house of her own she rents out, a long term partner who also has a house. She is just comfortable living a child-like life and is fully enmeshed with her mother.
Recently, after another delay of their new house, husband started trying to get SIL to move, as we would like to have more space and maybe another child. He asked for a plan from her. Well, she got upset and told the family that she has to go live with her partner.
MIL blew up, of course. She "doesn't allow" SIL to move because "easy women move before marriage" and because she doesn't approve of her partner, calling him disrespectful for not visiting and asking permission. SIL also really wants to keep living with parents.
Somehow, the typically enabling FIL stepped up due to pressure from my husband and that SIL issue. He convinced MIL for them all the move to one of their old properties, and they are all intensely working on restorations for a couple weeks now. FIL said they will be moving by mid June.
Expected but MIL is getting salty about the loss of control and having to go. She is attacking husband for being disrespectful and saying we are always rude to her. My only goal is getting them out as easily as possible. That's why I wanted to ask - how do I work towards keeping things smooth, avoiding giving MIL crazy ideas like refusing to move?