Am I wrong for taking back something I lent my cousin after finding out he was letting other people use it?
A few months ago I lent my cousin my old gaming laptop because his computer died and he needed something for school and job applications. I wasn't using it much, but it's still a decent laptop and I was pretty clear that I was lending it to HIM, not giving it away.
Last weekend I went over to his place and one of his friends was sitting at the kitchen table playing a game on it. I asked my cousin about it afterward and he casually said his friends use it sometimes when they're over, and that he'd even let one of them take it home for a weekend recently.
That bothered me way more than he expected.
I told him I wasn't comfortable with random people taking my laptop, especially outside his apartment, and I wanted it back. He got annoyed and said nothing had happened to it, he was responsible for it, and since I wasn't using it anyway he didn't understand why I suddenly cared who touched it.
His argument was basically that while something is loaned to him, it's his responsibility and therefore he should get to decide how it's used.
Mine is that I trusted HIM with an expensive piece of my property. I didn't agree to some unofficial community laptop situation.
I took it home that night.
Now he's pissed because he still needs a computer and says I left him screwed over because of a hypothetical problem that never actually happened. My aunt also thinks I overreacted and says I should've just told him not to lend it out again instead of immediately taking it back.
Maybe that's fair, but honestly the fact that he'd already sent it home with somebody I don't even know killed my trust pretty fast.
Am I wrong for taking it back instead of giving him another chance?