AIO? My GF wanted an apology for raising a hand against her but I think this was justified
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This happened yesterday. I was standing naked in a bathtub getting ready for my bath (was waiting for the water to start running warm). My girlfriend of 6-7 years was brushing her hair with a wooden brush.
I wasn't paying attention, looking mostly at bathtub faucet (water was oddly long running cold) when she smacked my butt with the brush. Mind you, it was a big, wooden, thick and flat brush which could be considered a spanking paddle.
I raised my voiced saying "what are you doing?!" alongside raising my hand in the air. It hurt like hell. I even told her the day earlier (when she smacked me first time through my pants) not to do it as it hurts.
She apologized immediately. I wasn't mad after a minute, we all do some stuff without thinking, makes mistakes, it might take time to stop doing something etc. After few minutes I saw she was down. I asked what's wrong, she replied that I scared her because she thought I would hit her.
Then she asked my if I plan to apologize to her (for raising my hand). A small argument broke out which ended with me apologizing. I tried to explain that it was just a unconditioned reaction, my body got in defensive position waiting for me to process what's happening. I didn't hit her, I never did nor did I hit anyone in my adult life. She claimed I shouldn't have raise hand and I need to apologize. She then demanded that I swear I never do it again.
I felt like this whole situation was turned to made me feel guilty for it. AIO that I shouldn't need to apologize here?