u/Great-Design-5845

I mean will they ever admit to themselfes that it didnt in fact take two people for this unhealthy dinamic but it was them using darvo, deflection, aggression etc. while all you wanted was peace?

Do you sometimes read old messages from the beginning? They seem like a different person! So understanding and patient. Which makes me again doubt if it was all my fault. He was so careing and slowly it ended and he became more and more cruel...

I still cant explain why or how it happened:/ it feels like I did everything wrong so I lost the lovely version of him