My marriage is a disaster
I need to vent. So I had a baby 3 months ago, my husband said to quit my job and be with the kids. I was on FMLA and I didn't want to quit but I said if my husband wants me to quit to take care of the kids and no longer pay for day care, then ok. I have to trust my husband. Well I quit and my husband never got the second job, he made excuses my whole pregnancy. He is leaving to start a career as a truck driver, but I did research and he won't make enough to cover bills. I asked my husband for a joint account because I don't like I asking can I have money. Like if my kids want something I should have access to our account so I can budget, he says I'm a red flag that I want access to his money, he doesn't have much but I'm not here to be financially stupid. I have worked and when working I paid most of everything. He said if I want a joint account we can get a divorce. I feel dumb because I knew I should have kept the kids in daycare and kept my job. The worst part about my marriage is my husband will leave every week or every other week for a couple of days or a week because we got into an argument and then say I have to figure out everything , knowing I have no job! He tells and be littles me just because now I don't have a job for 3 months. I can't leave cuz I have no income , I'm waiting for child care help, I'm trying to get an exit plan. I'm just so upset I wanted to trust my husband and we struggling , can't be on the same page etc. I also want to add I used my taxes and short term disability to help pay bills and rent after having a baby!! Thinking he would get his shit together