Iam revert Muslimah, need advice 10 year relationship, guy wants me as his "second wife".Even he is nt married yet.
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so basically we were together for 10 years, been together since we were teenagers. i'm 25 now, he's 26. quick background - i actually converted to islam in 2020, he's born muslim. While back i got pregnant in 2024 and he pressured/forced me into getting an abortion.He saw ultrasound scan, prega news even blood report. He was also physically violent with me once during this time - grabbed me by the neck and literally threw me out and slapped me , this happened in front of his mom. He have done forced abortion that time.I was 2 months pregnant at that time. Even he left me after Abortion.
it's been 2 years since the abortion thing. he's still single but he just told me he wants to marry someone else (same caste as him) as his "first" wife, and asked if i'd be his "second wife". When I was pregnant he was in relationship with someone for 1 year as well.
I told him i'm done. said if he actually feared God he would've just married me properly instead of making excuses for years, and that this feels more like he's scared of what people will think than any real accountability on his part. he did not take that well lmao
am i wrong for ending it???? Or should I become his second wife?? I also want the thought of hanafi fiqh.