r/reverts

Atheist/agnostic, Islam curious.

I’d love to visit the local Masjid soon, Inshallah. Only thing keeping me is what to wear respectfully.

I plan on long pants and sleeves. What should I put on my head? I feel a baseball cap or hoodie is not appropriate but I am not sure what other options there are.

I do have one Kuffiyah print scarf but don’t know if that would be ok, and how to wear it. Any advice would be appreciated. Shukran! ! شكرا

Let me start off by saying that I (35 F)grew up atheist. Family wasn't religious. Science was king... heck.. I even have a degree in a scientific field! That was until I discovered Islam, and it changed my life for the better... in a lot of ways, in some ways... not so much.

My newfound faith has given me a sense of peace and purpose that I have never felt (other than the sense of purpose gained from being a mother to my two children) in my life! My health is better, and my mental health has greatly improved.

I have been Muslim for a little over a year and a half now.

So that's a little context... now onto the moral dilemma...

I was a new revert to Islam of around 5 months before I worked up the courage to tell my parents. I sent them a long message (perhaps in hindsight, it wasn't the best way to go about it) stating how I had taken my Shahada and I was prepared to answer any questions/concerns they may have , etc etc.

Within half an hour of me sending that message, my father turned up at my address, pretended to be calm (it was a ruse for me to let him in) proceeded to give me a lecture about how Islam is evil etc etc and said some really disgusting things about how I'm putting "his granddaughter in danger because those people can't be trusted" amongst many other racist and vile things and slapped me around the face and left. I've not seen or spoken to them since, I did speak to one of my sisters (who's very much close to my parents) until about 8 months ago, but I soon realised everything I was venting out too her was being filtered back to my parents, so I cur contact with her too. They also cut contact with my children! (NEVER AT ANY POINT DID I SAY/CLAIM THEY COULD NOT SEE THEM FYI) which has devastated them.

To add in, my parents are extremely racist and the types to believe every false , far right claim that is fed too them.

Anyway...

Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago, I get a call from a withheld number...

I answer

It's my sister...

"Dad has cancer"

Me : "oh..."

And I hang up the phone.

I've not attempted contact.

I could forgive my father for abandoning me, but I can't forgive him for walking away from my children...

Am I the A'hole here?

Good day everyone! I just wanted to bring up some things that I have personally felt from my own experiences that whenever I attempt to discuss Islam, genuinely research it, it always get pushed back. I don’t mean to sound rude or insensitive, I just thought I would share my experience.

Whether it was attending a mosque (which I had a meeting set up with an imam) or asking questions here, Reddit, genuine revert websites. It always seems that one of three things occur.

1. I get ignored, totally understandable

2. The conversation is quick and leads to me being ignored

3. People try to somehow debate me out of it

Im not sure if I’ve ever truly felt connected when I have asked someone about Islam, or cared for? I suppose? Like they value my questions. And most of the time it hurts because my intentions are genuine and my heart is open, however it seems that I am constantly shut down. Would anyone be willing to talk to me about this? About how I feel about my journey, willing to debate maybe? I just want someone to value what I’m saying because I know I sure value it. Please let me know as if people continue to shut me out, maybe it’s a sign that Islam is not for me.

He is at the mosque two times per day now, daily prayers, Friday prayers, has already taken part in a funeral ritual, changing his views on people etc I am doing my best to be curious and supportive but I'm terrified of how quickly he is changing. He seems more judgemental and cold now.

It's only been a few weeks. We have two young children together. I've been learning about the religion and have seen that if I do not eventually convert then he will leave me. I am agnostic and believe that all religions are valid and should be respected, that character and humility matters. He said his mentor told him to practice patience and that divorce would be bad for our children. I am also a stay at home mother. We had an argument about this specific topic last night and he did tell me that I should convert to Islam and if he has to choose, he will choose his faith.

What does "be patient" mean? I am too intimidated to go to a mosque and talk to his imam myself. I don't know what to do. I feel like my life is in this tortuous state of limbo right now, to which he is anything but empathetic because he is obsessed and absorbed with his new faith and community. I do not have any friends or community so the isolation I feel is so scary. I only have him and our two children and my world is falling apart.

I am a revert and wondering if it's weird if I raise my only child with sharing meals from one plate rather than separate plates? I lived in Morocco where this is common and it is something I would love to do with my little family even though we are white europeans lol

Assalamu alaykum,

I am new to Islam but feel its right in my heart and I want to embrace this beautiful religion. However I really struggle to establish and learn the prayers. Fellow reverts, how did you start learning? Any tips?
For context I struggle with depression so starting tasks is already difficult for me and I feel overwhelmed.

Jazakallal khairan.

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I'm half Gulf Arab (mom) and half British (dad). My mom is not an atheist but my dad is, so he left Islam and was abusive so my mom left Islam cause what else could she do? I tried contacting my religious aunt who her and her husband were friends with him and she blocked me!

I am DEFINITELY not an atheist. I have been looking into religion since I was 12 even though I wasn't raised like that. I definitely do not fit into the UK dating culture (I could explain but it's too long). I don't even fit in here anymore. I have never even been to the Gulf but people see me as foreign since I've grown up even though I speak the local language (not English). I have wanted to get married for years, due to my loneliness of being abused as a child and having no relatives, but no khaleeji wants to marry me because I'm not Muslim, even though I believe in God and have traditional values. I've just felt so alone my entire life. What am I supposed to do? I feel like I fit in with Muslims but the UK and my dad has ruined how I see Islam, I feel like I genuinely can't convert, like no matter what. I don't know how to explain it. I looked into Shia Islam even though my family were Sunni, and I like it a lot, but like I said, I feel like I just can't do this.

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so basically we were together for 10 years, been together since we were teenagers. i'm 25 now, he's 26. quick background - i actually converted to islam in 2020, he's born muslim. While back i got pregnant in 2024 and he pressured/forced me into getting an abortion.He saw ultrasound scan, prega news even blood report. He was also physically violent with me once during this time - grabbed me by the neck and literally threw me out and slapped me , this happened in front of his mom. He have done forced abortion that time.I was 2 months pregnant at that time. Even he left me after Abortion.

it's been 2 years since the abortion thing. he's still single but he just told me he wants to marry someone else (same caste as him) as his "first" wife, and asked if i'd be his "second wife". When I was pregnant he was in relationship with someone for 1 year as well.

I told him i'm done. said if he actually feared God he would've just married me properly instead of making excuses for years, and that this feels more like he's scared of what people will think than any real accountability on his part. he did not take that well lmao

am i wrong for ending it???? Or should I become his second wife?? I also want the thought of hanafi fiqh.

I am christian who lives in Sweden i find that Islam make more sense recently i started reading some verses online.. but nothing more not considering to convert anytime soon.. i wonder if anyone out there like me

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

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I recently converted and decided to stop doing drugs which I did but I have so much trouble with withdrawals. My qarin keeps whispering how good it would feel to take drugs. I am staying clean for Allah but its so very hard.

Salam everyone,

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JazakAllah khair, and I hope it brings value to your daily routine!