Is it worth saving? 24F/25F
24/F here and the other party involved is 25/F we’ve known each other for about a year and we dated for about 5 months before making it official. Not even a month into being official it’s like she became a totally different person the first time we went out together she publicly belittled me in front of a friend who I consider a sister. Repeatedly called me out my name and has threatened to leave (actually walked out on me multiple times)/ find someone that actually knows her worth.
Unfortunately for myself I’m a very patient person and I disclosed that early on and I feel that I was taken for granted to say the least. Over time it has been nothing but a push pull dynamic and I’m burnt out from the constant attitudes, snarky remarks, huge blow ups over small inconveniences, caring more about image than the actual relationship, etc etc. Of course overtime I didn’t feel what I was giving was ever gonna be reciprocated so I found myself slowly detaching.
Fast forward to now and she’s “trying” her best to get me to feel emotionally safe again but idk if I can tbh. Like that was months of dealing with it nonstop it seems and it’s like now that she actually sees/feels me detaching she wants to fix everything. She just wants to get back to “normal” without putting in the work or even acknowledging my hurt. But all the while she wants to fix things she said something very backhanded
She told me that she wants a fresh start with someone else because they will see her for her and not judge her. But I told her that’s unfair because she’s basically saying I’m too damaged although she caused it I’m too damaged for her to the point she wants to look elsewhere.
It is fair I point out I’ve never raised my voice when it came to her never did anything out of spite and I ALWAYS moved with intent and consideration from the way I spoke, tone, actions, etc. But to her she sees it as me just wanting to give up after she’s shown and told me multiple times she didn’t want this.
Even with speaking with her best friend privately and I asked her if the roles were reversed I would’ve been dropped a long time ago and she even agreed. I bring that up because she also avoids my two closest friends (she publicly belittled me in front of them on two separate occasions) and she claims because she doesn’t want to be around anyone that doesn’t like her. Which I keep reminding her they hate the way she talks/treats me especially given they’ve seen it firsthand but to her it’s just unfair that they think she’s not good enough for me.
Is this even worth saving? Like I’m drained and I can’t keep explaining to her why things are the way they are because it’s redundant.