UPDATE: I (40m) found out my wife was having an affair. Confronted her. Now she has ghosted me.
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UPDATE: So I fell I needed to update the community that helped me out so much. Reading some of your posts and replies really did help. So as of Tuesday last week I am officially divorced.
The main thing I will say is how quickly it went. My wife didn't fight it and we had a lawyer mediate for us. As I mentioned in my previous post my ex wife ghosted me, no messages, no replies, until I sent an email saying we are meeting a lawyer and she needs to give me a date that works for her. She only responded to that and stated in her message that she just needed time. Not that she told me that, I guess she just assumed. Not once has she seemed genuinely remorseful, or taking any responsibility, blaming me that I pushed her, and how bad it must be that someone like her could cheat.
Even when she talks to friends she keeps saying how bad the last few years were. I don't believe that is true, but that seems to be her excuse.
Anyway I'm doing a lot better and I'm happy that everything went through so quickly that I can move on.