AITA for saying no when my boyfriend proposed at my friend’s wedding?
I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (30M) for a little over 3 years. We had discussed marriage before, so engagement wasn’t something I never expected, but we hadn’t discussed getting engaged anytime soon.
One of my very best friends got married last weekend. I was in the bridal party and had been helping with a lot of little wedding things for months.
Immediately after the speeches at the reception, my boyfriend got everyone’s attention. I thought, “Oh, he’s going to make a toast or something,” but then he got down on one knee and proposed in front of everyone.
The crowd started cheering, but I got a sinking feeling in my stomach. I kept thinking this should have been my friend’s day, not mine, and I felt very put on the spot because everyone was looking at me, waiting for a response.
I said, “I love you, but this isn’t the right time or place,” and I didn’t say yes.
After that, everything kind of went quiet except for a few people awkwardly clapping. My boyfriend looked embarrassed, and my friend’s husband changed the topic and got things going again.
Later, my boyfriend told me I embarrassed him in front of everyone and that I should have just said yes at the time, then discussed it with him afterward. I didn’t agree, and my friend told me she appreciated that I didn’t go along with it because she felt it wasn’t appropriate for her wedding.
Some people say he put me in a difficult situation. Others say I was unkind to turn him down in public.
AITA?