u/GreenBeannQueen

Update to this situation

I ended up texting asking MB and DB on whether the extra childcare hours would be paid or unpaid and how many hours I would work. Of course they didn’t answer.

In person this morning MB basically said they don’t really have a set time for when they’d need help with NK outside my normal hours. And I asked again if those hours would be paid or unpaid.

She said, “Well, you’d be living in our house for free.”

That completely threw me because from the VERY beginning she knew staying with my sister was always an option for me. I didn’t need them to “save” me from having nowhere to go.

That’s why this feels so off now. It went from:
“Hey, you can stay with us until June 1st”
to
“Well you’re living here for free, so…”

The fact there’s “no set time” they’d need help honestly makes me even more uncomfortable because what does that even mean? An hour? Three hours every day? Being on call whenever they’re unpacking?

I told her my sister’s house was still an option and she said she’d talk to her husband.

And honestly, I think what bothers me most is how it’s being reframed like this huge favor to me when I’m also giving things up too. I do not want to spend 11 days isolated in the suburbs away from my friends, my routine, and everything familiar just to potentially become unpaid extra help whenever needed.

If they decide they want to pay I’ll stay with them (I could use the money lol) if not I’ll commute.

Also this is a vent post, I don’t need any negative comments, I know how I want to handle this situation. No matter what I feel resentment on my end and this family has left a bad taste in my mouth. I will always do my job properly and with love for my NK and will be nice to the parents but internally, it’s a no for me dawg.

Looking for perspective from other nannies because I need to know if I’m being unreasonable or if this is actually as off as it feels.

I work for a family whose position is ending on June 1st. Originally, the plan aligned with their move to the suburbs since the commute would go from about 5 minutes to roughly 45+ minutes each way. My lease also ends around the same time, so the timing actually worked out for me.
Recently, their move date was moved earlier, but my job end date is still June 1st.

MB mentioned I could stay with them in their new house until June 1st (I’m going on vacation for a few weeks after that and didn’t want to sign a new lease just for a short gap). At first, it sounded like a simple, mutually beneficial offer.
Then things started shifting.

Two weeks after that conversation, she asked if I could watch NK outside of my working hours without additional pay. I said yes in the moment because I felt kind of put on the spot.

A couple days later, she followed up saying I wouldn’t be charged for staying there, and then added that it would be helpful if I could also help with childcare while they unpack during non-working hours, again unpaid.

What’s throwing me off is that it keeps changing and getting added onto, when none of this was laid out clearly from the beginning. It feels less like a simple place to stay and more like “we’ll figure out the expectations as we go,” which makes it hard to actually agree to anything.

For context, they recently bought a house that was close to $2 million.

I’m honestly just pissed. We’re both a week out from moving from our places. If I knew they would try to take advantage of me earlier I could’ve just rented a new place but now it’s too soon to rent somewhere. Now I have to find someone to stay with or ask them to not take advantage of this situation and pay me for my work.