u/GreenGirl539

Basically I'm waiting for 2 main reasons: to be married first, and for my partner to handle his own personal things.

I feel no control over my life any more. I've done all the things on paper that I can do towards the life I want of being married and having kids. But I'm still stuck. Life just feels unfair. And like my efforts don't matter at this point. I'm losing motivation in life because I can't work towards my main quest. I still find joy in other little side quests (nature, good coffee, a laugh with friends, making my dog happy) but it all feels a bit hollow because I have no main purpose I can work towards.

I'm not a mom, why would he? I know it's silly wishful thinking, but it would be nice.

I have my PE and 6 years experience in structural (multifamily construction.)

Looking for a new job now. I'm hoping to start a family in about 2-3 years, and fit in a good amount of travel in the meantime.

So I'm hoping for good benefits, good PTO, flexibility for reduced hours or unpaid time off, parental leave. If this comes at a lower salary, so be it.

What is my strategy here?