Help me and my cis partner pls
I’m 4 years on t (28).We got together few months before my transition and it was long distance. When I’d visit (pre-t ), we would have some version of sex but it was fun! We kissed and made out ,pda etc.
fast forward I ended up getting kicked out which fueled us moving in with each other and the” sex”stopped completely. We spent most of our time living together in the south , working through the fact that we lived together and her family didn’t know about us. When she would visit her family , I was just her friend was watching her pets. Transitioning in the south and being a secret was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do and I completely feel like I did it alone.
We finally relocated out the south, her family knows we’re together and we still don’t have sex. Some more time passes and we still don’t have sex. Im now 3 years into my transition and it makes me really sad that she’s never attempted or expressed desire to touch me outside of a hug and kiss.
Additional info: My partner hasn’t had any good experiences with cis men sexually. We’ve been together for 3-4 years. She started ssri while we lived together due to her depression. Her mom doesn’t know I’m trans and my gf doesn’t see why it matters to share that info(I met her mom pre-t ). We’ve talked about what she thinks about during sex time. She expressed she spends so much time in her head she doesn’t think about my body. For a longtime she has blamed her medication but her therapist and me both said that people do plan to have sex. We don’t necessarily need to have it but taking time to try to be intimate would be a start.
I guess my question or advice I’m looking for is, does my girlfriend like me? If you met your partner before transition, what did you have to adjust to in terms of affirming their gender? I’m willing to share more information I just don’t feel like typing 3 years of a relationship.