Am I stupid... Or is She Flirting???
I need help because if I don't figure this out quick I don't know if ima make it to Hot Boy Summer.... I recently had a pretty decent glow up in my life. I am 31 now started at 28... 6"1 and went from about 315lbs to 200 in the last 3 years. Started caring how I looked, skin care, gym life hard, diet locked in, Goggins grindset for cardio. I started for myself, but noticed the homies always complementing me about how much better I look etc. Then always coming on here and reading about how I should get used to the Bro's always being down to have your back and pick you up with a compliment. Its like guitar, you think girls would find it hot, but its mainly guys at the party who think you are cool. About 2 months ago a female coworker who is somewhat part of the gym group and my "Work Friends" girlfriend who they share a kid together with, well she started complimenting me. At first it started with dang you look like you've lost some weight and I've been seeing you at the gym good job. Pretty normal Bro shit to me. Then she started talking about how well my jawline has come in, and how chiseled it now looks. She constantly is putting herself down to use in some way say how I look good and how she wished she worked as hard. My dumbass was just giving her diet advice, what workout splits I had been doing, etc. Literally thinking nothing more than she was one of the bros who was looking to get that pre-baby body back. Was even dumb enough to think nothing of it and invited her to jump in with me during my workouts if she wanted too, me thinking like oh she might just want some extra help and Two always can lock down a machine and area better than one. Well it took a turn that I truly never would have seen coming and its got me confused AF..... I lowkey trauma dumped on her about another girl I wanted to see and she actually gave me really good advice, but in a sneaky way kept saying how she would never give mixed signals like that to me or she wouldnt treat me that way etc. But fully had me convinced to keep talking to the other girl and give it time.... Yet again somehow pretty solid Bro advice minus the subtle hints. Then again out of nowhere tonight She told me she caught me doing a set of pullups and that it was really impressive, to the point she even said she thought it was 'pretty hot' that I was getting that strong. Other coworkers of mine kept saying that she was starring at me all night even though I was trying really hard to stay the hell out of the way of her and her man. I guess I am just truly confused if she is flirting or if she is just a legit bro who is trying to fit in. She takes the gym pretty serious and the purest in me wants to believe that she loves her man and isnt no cheater, she just wants to talk and fit in with the bros. But.... But the Devil on my shoulder is telling me that if she is actually showing interest, then fuck it why not???? Only problem being is I am literally too fucking stupid to know if she is actually flirting or not. Thoughts and prayers please L:6 G:2.1