AITAH for picking my wedding dress that happens to be one of the ones my MOH is deciding between?
For context, I am getting married months before my MOH. I am doing an elopement with immediate family only and only have a couple months to plan so not much time to find a dress etc. (the date me and my fiancé chose is very special to us and have been talking about this date before my MOH event met her fiancé so once we could begin planning a wedding, we did). I don’t have a bridal party and didn’t plan on having any friends at my elopement beyond my one best friend. We were unsure if we even wanted friends at the wedding and just our family but this is my best friend and I wanted to celebrate with her.
The problem is that she is also planning her wedding at the same time as me. She has been dress shopping before me and looking for months. I found a bridal store that had good reviews and wanted to make a appt there but then my MOH began taking about how she has an appt there so I then second guessed it because I didn’t want it to come across as if I was coping her or anything like that. My mom encouraged me to still make the appt because there are plenty of dresses so I did.
My MOH sent me pictures of a couple of her top choices before I went and told me the style she was going for. She never told me I couldn’t look at these dresses but I went in purposely avoiding the style she told me she was leaning towards because again, I don’t want to copy her.
I went and on the first appointment, fell in love with a dress that my grandma picked out and I didn’t think twice about. Everything about it is perfect, I cried and I didn’t want to take it off so I knew it was the one. I said yes. I made sure I avoided the style my MOH was going for and checked the pictures to make sure I didn’t copy any of her dresses she was still choosing from. I was disappointed to see that the dress I said yes too (in the moment) just happened to be one of the ones my MOH was choosing between for her wedding (despite it being a different style than what she wants). I completely forgot in the moment and was just in love with the dress. I acknowledge that I messed up here by not remembering the photos she sent me better.
I went to talk to her immediately after and explained everything. she got very upset with me and shared she felt insulted and wished I asked her if it’s ok before I said yes to the dress. She asked me to wait so she can make her decision on the dresses bc she is unsure of what she wants still and wants to choose and not feel restrained by what I want. I shared with her I don’t want her to feel that way and purposely avoided the style she wanted but that didn’t seem the matter. This dress was the one exception and idk it was a top contender of hers. I agreed to wait, apologized numerous times but also feel frustrated. We have been best friends for years and I don’t want anything to get in between us, especially over a dress she hasn’t even chosen yet or is not the style she is going for. If she ends up choosing the dress, what do I do? AITAH?