u/GroundNo9582

My sister sent me a link to this guy's Instagram post "21 signals your body sends 3-5 years BEFORE illness" I was intrigued and I paid for this ebook….cost $10. I received a link via email that goes around and around to a page "lava.top" that wants me to register and then I have to sell for them? What in the world??? so apparently I have to do all this to get access to the $10 "free" ebook??? I know….I'm a total sucker! OF COURSE...This was a HUGE red flag .. to make things worse… the help option is all in a foreign language and there is no translation so totally worthless. I suggest that everyone block this guy Xmaslen01 and don't go down the rabbit hole I just did. Such a freaking waste! I hope I'm able to warn others to save their $10 and not get suckered into this crazy scheme. For some unknown reason I can't upload more screenshots….if I figure it out I will update this post.

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I’m reaching out because I’m exhausted, overwhelmed, and honestly looking for guidance from parents who may have gone through something similar.

My son is 15 (adopted at birth), and for years we’ve struggled with explosive anger episodes at home. I’ve taken him to countless psychologists, therapists, and psychiatrists over the last 10 years. Getting him there is often a battle in itself, and once we arrive, he usually sits in silence and refuses to engage. After so many sessions with little progress, I started feeling defeated and frustrated.

I love my son more than anything, which is why this hurts so much. I wish he could recognize the impact his words and actions have and learn how to stop things before they escalate. The outbursts usually last about 30 minutes and can be extremely intense. Over the years, I’ve dealt with holes in walls, broken items, constant tension in the house, and feeling like I’m walking on eggshells afraid to say “no” because I know what may follow.

Lately, I’ve been trying harder to stand firm with boundaries while also working on staying calm myself and not escalating situations by yelling back. Some days I do better than others.

What makes this even more confusing is that outside the home, he’s doing well. He gets good grades, plays sports, has friends, and teachers/coaches really like him. The anger seems to happen almost exclusively with me at home.

As a single mom who also struggles with depression at times, this has been emotionally draining and isolating. I also think the lack of strong male role models in his life has been difficult for him.

Recently I came across information about Intermittent Explosive Disorder, and for the first time I felt like I was reading a description of what we’ve been living through for years. I don’t know for sure if this is what he has, but it felt validating to finally find something that sounded familiar.

I’m considering trying a peer group or group therapy setting to see if he might open up more around other teens his age.

If anyone has experience with IED or similar behaviors in teens, I would truly appreciate any advice, insight, or encouragement. Thank you.