WIBTAH for telling my sister she can’t have my hypothetical baby name?
**AITA for being upset my stepsister might use the baby name I’ve had picked out for years?**
I (27F) have had a future baby girl name picked out with my fiancé since we were literally in high school. We aren’t pregnant or trying right now (we are getting married soon), but it’s one of those names that has just always been our name we loved.
I KNOW I told my stepsister (26F) and my other stepsister this name before, although it was probably a year or two ago. On top of that, all of my close friends, sister-in-laws, etc. know this hypothetical future daughter name because it gets brought up all the time when people talk about us having kids one day. Even my mom jokingly refers to this hypothetical child by the name sometimes. So it’s definitely not some secret random name I never mentioned to anyone.
Well, my stepsister just found out she’s having a girl, and she texted me tonight saying she loves the exact first/middle combo that me and my fiancé have planned.
Here’s the thing: I truly do NOT believe anyone owns a baby name. I would never tell someone they “can’t” use something. And I honestly don’t even know if she remembers that I told her years ago or if this is just a coincidence. But me and my fiancé were both kind of shocked when she said it because it’s such a specific combo. Part of me also wonders if she was kind of testing the waters to see my reaction.
I just hearted the message and didn’t say anything because I don’t want to be dramatic or possessive over a hypothetical future child when I’m not even pregnant. But if I’m being honest, I would genuinely be upset if I had to call my future niece the exact name I’ve envisioned for my own daughter for years.
All my friends are telling me I should say something just so she knows, but I also don’t want to be “that person” who acts like they own a name.
WIBTAH if I said something?