Help (M32) (F29)
Hi redditors! I‘d like to stay anonymous tho, i need some advice to calm me down or suggestions.
This might be a long text but i‘ll try to make it short.
I am currently living with my long time girlfriend we are in a relationship for almost 15 years, i‘m actually planning to propose this year. But there are thoughts that makes me „unsure“ maybe? I don’t know the term*, In this long years there are of course ups and downs.
First was when we were a new couple, she had a 3rd party. So we fixed that, I forgave her and continued our relationship which went well after that. Fast forward to our 3rd year, i needed to go abroad, i‘ve been in a different country for 6-7 years, 5 years of living abroad, things got complicated between us, until i met a coworker and had an affair with her, which she knew about, but it didn‘t last long, then same thing we fixed it we continued our relationship but a few months before I go back to my country for good. I heard that one of my friend -i knew this guy for a long time cousin of one of my bestfriend and we are in the same circle of friends, childhood friends and so- asked my gf if he can court her. All i hear after that was she rejected him because him and I are friends etc., but there‘s always something in the back of my mind like it‘s making me paranoid that they probably got deeper because i wasn‘t there, i also saw a photo of her with our 2 friends and THAT guy they are eating in a restaurant or something, one picture that i saw is they are in a wedding of one of our friend and they‘ve been sitting next to each other. Also I believe that this friend of mine (cousin of the guy that asked my girl if she can court her) and his wife is pushing my girlfriend to be with him or at least try to be with him. But i talked to my girlfriend, and she said it was othing because from the beggining she doesn‘t want to do anything with him.
But inside i still have this questions about them. I try to ignorr it, we still meet occasionally with the same group of people, but sometimes i feel caged. I feel like i don‘t want to be in the group anymore, not because i don‘t like them but because i feel there is something no one‘s telling me about that I really wasn‘t supposed to know. Also, when I asked my girlfriend about it. She said the guy messaged him about he likes to court her, and she said no.
But my question is there are conversation threads anywhere between her and that guy, but that specific message is missing. (We both have access to each orher phones we have privacy but we can use or show each other phones whenever)
Do you guys think that there is something more that i should know? Did she removed the messages on their thread just to be safe?
Or is it just me thinking about a lot of things making scenarios in my head and believing it‘s true?