u/Grumpykid283

which worries me , she has been dealing with psychological issues and is on meds. I discussed this with a friend of mine and he advised me not to get too involved and see her from a distance, she is in bengaluru RN and I have to go there for some work related stuff and I thought of surprising her and staying a few days extra , this action of mine I believe will make things more serious between us (this is not long distance as she is in bengaluru for a month and then we both are in the same city) , also her actions at times are very unpredictable ie. she has severe mood swings , all of a sudden she starts to act distant and nonchalant
So what should I do?

I (23M) met a girl (23F) about a month ago. We live nearby and the connection was instant—we were seeing each other almost every day. However, she recently had to leave town for a two-month trip.

I’m usually busy with work . Even so, I make it a point to text her when I have a free minute and call her briefly to check in. She knows I’m busy and says she understands, but she constantly says stuff like: "I want to talk to you all day," "I’m sad we can’t talk more because you're busy," and "You’re always on my mind."

Because she kept saying how much she missed me, I decided to shift my schedule to be more available. I told her I would carve out time every night specifically for her. Here is how that has played out:

• ⁠The First Night: I called her at 11:30 PM. She was out and said she’d call when she got home. She finally called at 2:00 AM. I was already asleep, but I woke up and sacrificed my rest to talk to her for two hours.
• ⁠The Following Days: Since then, she has been leaving me on "read" all day and doesn't initiate any conversations. When I try to reach out, she doesn't follow through on calling me back.
• ⁠The Contradiction: Despite her silence and lack of effort, whenever we do talk, she claims that she misses me constantly.

I’ve been very direct with her and asked multiple times if she wants to see other people while she’s away. She strongly says "no" every time and insists she only wants me. She even told me that on her first day there, a guy approached her and she didn't entertain him at all because of her feelings for me.