u/Grumpyyduck

Am I the only one surprised by how much incest discussion there is on Reddit? I understand the taboo appeal argument, even if I disagree with the actual act. I assume most people are attracted to the fantasy rather than genuinely wanting a relative, and while someone might briefly notice a relative is attractive, I think it’s wrong when that becomes something they focus on rather than shut down.

What confuses me is how many posts go beyond fantasy and talk about doing it, wanting to do it, or supporting it. Do you think a lot of these stories are exaggerated, made up, or people being horny online? Is incest roleplay really as common as Reddit makes it seem, and if so, what do people actually find appealing about it?

My IBS got really bad right when I was starting to explore guys and think about losing my virginity. I had constant stomach issues, a heavily restricted diet and lost 58 lbs. It completely changed how I looked too. I went from a chubby baby faced teen to a much slimmer and healthier version of myself, and for the first time in years I actually felt confident.

As my appearance changed, I started getting a lot more attention from guys. The attention was flattering and I had some fun along the way, but I was always worried someone would judge me, get impatient or leave if I couldn’t bottom because of my IBS. That fear honestly delayed a lot of things for me.

I eventually met a guy who I was completely honest with. I showed him my before and after photos and explained everything. He never made me feel embarrassed about it and has actually helped my confidence a lot. If I have an IBS wobble, need to delay sex or change plans, he just adapts and gets on with it. No guilt, no pressure, no drama.

It’s made me realize how important understanding is. Some guys seem to expect bottoms to be available all the time, but life doesn’t work like that. Ironically, our sex life is probably better because there’s no pressure around it, and we’ve found plenty of other ways to enjoy spending time together.

Anyone else found that understanding matters more than almost anything else?

I sent a face pic first, and he recognised me from college. He kept asking if I’d give him head, refused to show his face, and asked questions about me being gay. It annoyed me because he clearly knew who I was, but I had no idea who he was. He eventually admitted he was messing with me, but would only send a body pic, gave vague answers, and said he wasn’t out. I got the impression he was a cocky DL guy, but the curiosity and adrenaline got the better of me.

When we arranged to meet, I stayed back from the meeting point so I could see if he’d actually show up. Eventually a guy appeared who matched the build he’d described: same height, lean, toned, masculine, and someone who could easily pass as straight. He had dark messy hair, goatee-style facial hair, and dressed like any other straight lad from college. I was more soft-masculine and chubbier, so I remember feeling nervous walking over.

What surprised me was how much he changed in person. Online he came across cocky, sarcastic, and hard to read. In person he spoke quietly in a deep voice, was very focused on being discreet, and seemed keen to keep attention off us. He was actually friendly, talkative, and a lot more genuine than I’d expected.

We ended up going for a drive and sitting in my car talking for quite a while. The whole thing felt much more relaxed than the way he’d acted online. Afterwards he gave me his socials and we spoke on and off. The more I got to know him, the more I felt that a lot of his behaviour came from not being comfortable with his sexuality. He always seemed caught between wanting to explore things and wanting nobody to know about it.

He mentioned we could use the jacuzzi in his garden later, but I suggested we go in first and he liked how eager I was. I was early 20s and he was later 20s so not a huge age gap, but he was definitely more experienced and knew how to make me feel comfortable.

It was a warm day and the jacuzzi was under a canopy in the corner of his garden so it felt really private and relaxed. When I got there he came over smiling and was super calm with me. I admitted I’d never been nude around anyone before and he just reassured me and helped me relax.

We ended up sitting close talking, touching, kissing and messing around a bit, but never actually went all the way. He was really affectionate and touchy without making me feel pressured, which honestly made me feel super good and way more comfortable around him.

Afterwards we dried off, I used the bathroom near the back door and headed home. Such a fun experience and I felt way more playful and relaxed around him because of how easy going he was.

I live in the UK so warm weather isn’t exactly guaranteed, but the second we get any heat guys are outside drinking, tops come off, shorts come out and everyone’s way more relaxed. Seeing sweaty topless guys walking around with shirts over their shoulder or tucked into shorts honestly gets my eyes wandering every time.

I actually hate the heat because I burn easily, but seeing guys dealing with the sun and getting all sweaty definitely brings out a way more playful and flirty side of me.

Am I the only one? I feel like guys just being guys and dealing with the heat in an unintentionally sexy way gets me going. Anyone else the same? How do you deal with the heat with a partner?