u/GryphElyse

Hey gals! 34F, currently based in San Jose but strongly considering an LA move - or at least becoming a frequent visitor (flights are cheap). I'd love to start building my Glam Girl Gang online, and I've found quite a few friends in the past via local Discord servers since I can be "consistently around" to develop friendships there, so figured I'd try that here.

I'm of two halves, nerdy and bougie/girly, in equal and oft-incompatible measures. The nerdy stuff: I work remote (tech) and my main hobby is writing/drawing a scifi romance comic about an autistic AI researcher and her sexy android bodyguard. (If we connect on this AND girly stuff, we'll be BFFs!) I love film/animation, especially scifi, and occasionally get into fandoms for fic/art - recent favorites Spiderverse and Project Hail Mary. I also do some local LARPing and have been intermittently active in the kink scene, but haven't quite found my "people" in either community so far (at least in the Bay Area) - lots of awesome nerd friends, but few connect with my bougie/girly side.

The girly stuff: I chafe against the Bay Area's anti-glam culture! I'm big into fine dining, elegant fashion, and dressed-up nights out or brunches. Eager to show off my new style and silhouette after recent major weight loss. I have a mild obsession with Michelin restaurants and would love foodie companions as well, especially for particularly unique/innovative/inventive food. I'm too neurodivergent for big crowds and festivals or most outdoorsy stuff, but I love cocktail bars, malls, and people-watching for cute outfits. I'm very into fitness despite some health issues and heat sensitivity; Pilates/Lagree is great and I also lift weights at my apt gym. I'm single and would love to swap dating stories in the 30s age bracket - I hear it's rough out there, but it can't be worse than the Bay... can it?!

I'm already on a global fine dining foodie server that includes the LA area, but would love to find more local servers - any of yall have one?

Hi folks! I've been lowkey considering a move to LA sometime in the next year or so, still just an idea at this point, but I've been looking around this sub and researching neighborhoods etc. It would be a huge decision though, I'd have to sacrifice a lot to leave, so some of it might come down to whether I can find a specific apartment I love as much as my current one.

I work remote, so commute not an issue. My current rent in SF South Bay Area is $3600 for a 700sqft modern luxury-ish 1-bedroom with a WIC, a quiet interior courtyard view with plants, and central AC - all very important features for me. Good noise insulation is CRITICAL for my sanity; I'm trying to avoid places that are set on major intersections or near freeways or railroads, but failing that, a well-insulated and landscaped interior courtyard with lots of plants would really help. A well-stocked communal gym is also important.

I'm flexible on exact location and neighborhood, but I would note that I don't currently drive - I take a lot of Ubers and am fine with the expense (it costs less than owning a car + parking anyway). Walkability is NOT as important as noise; my current area isn't super walkable anyway. I was looking at greener neighborhoods like Brentwood, but there don't seem to be a lot of modern apartments there. I admit most of LA is very Pavement and that would probably bother me after getting spoiled by all the local greenery where I live.

I'm single, 34f, and would be looking to date in that age range. I'm hoping to be within a 20-30 minute Uber of areas where I can people-watch for cool outfits and hopefully make some friends interested in fashion, film, animation, glam, and fitness. That's what's missing in my current life; the Bay Area is pretty anti-fashion, and the gym culture is near nonexistent. I have lots of amazing queer/nerd friends, but I crave glam, especially if it's true that you can be both geeky AND glam in LA. But I'm also neurodivergent, extremely noise-sensitive, heat-sensitive (I kinda die if it's over 85, yay for central AC), and not great in crowds.

So, am I crazy to even think of abandoning my friends and my nice apt on the vague hope I might find My People? Does the very specific thing I'm looking for even exist, or should I count my blessings for where I live and just frequently visit LA instead of moving there? I'm probably not going to make a decision from this but it would be nice to gather more data. Many thanks!