Just to preface, I truly believe this is just boredom and/or fidgeting of some kind rather than some serious issues.
Anyways, I found a screwdriver on SD’s bed with holes in her sheets. She has had many talks about her destroying things (mainly because she wants to use it to play with something; example: cut off the strings of her curtain to pretend it was something for her play kitchen) but obviously nothing works. Idk where she even got the screwdriver. It’s one of them little mini ones and it’s possible she brought it from her grandmother’s (who buys her whatever she wants…literally anything…nothing is off limits).
I’m just at my wits ends with dealing with her destroying things. What do we do? Husband typically scolds her and grounds her but that’s obviously not working. She has free rein at BM’s and grandma’s (grandma is babysitter) to do whatever she wants and treat her things however. We are EOWE and are the more structured house so trying to teach basic respect for things doesn’t really stick.
I’ll obviously be taking the screwdriver away and not even let her take it back to BM’s or grandma’s to hopefully prevent her from bringing it back. And if the holes cause her sheets to continue to rip to the point of no return, she’ll have to use her piggy bank money to buy her new ones. Other than that, any tips on how I can get her to understand that destroying things is not okay? Even if it’s because you want to use it for something fun?