AIO to my friends routinely showing up late, including to my birthday?
On my birthday this year, I made plans to go out to dinner as a large party of my close friends and some new ones. Everyone was dead-set on the first place I mentioned, so I suggested we be there at 6. Not a single person had any issues with the time, so I set it in stone and put it in our group chat and people RSVP'd and everything. Everything seemed good to go.
I show up to the place early since they wouldn't allow reservations and wait for people to show up. I invited 13 people (I think?), who confirmed the time was okay, to this dinner.
3 of them showed up on time. 3. And one of them that I invited I've talked to like... twice before that night.
The latest someone showed up was an hour late. The good news is that the table was still being occupied by a previous party, but my thought is "what if the table was available, and 4 of us are sitting there at a table for 14?"
I just took a breath and said "screw it" and played/joked around lightly about people showing up late, whatevs. The rest of the night was fine, we went back to my place, had drinks, played games, and people left happy and smiling.
Fast forward a 2-ish weeks later and I get invited to go out to a bar about a week in advance, and I said sure. They wanted to go on a Friday which sucks cus I have events I go to on Fridays on a pretty normal basis, but decided to go anyways since we haven't hung out as a group since my birthday.
The day we're supposed to go, they then tell me "we're going to get food and THEN go to the bar." Kind of annoyed things changed last minute, but agree to it since I'd be hungry anyways. They tell me to be there at 7 PM which sucks cus then I had enough time to go to my event, then dip and go to the restaurant; I had left my stuff for the event at home, but I can borrow some of my friends' stuff so again, I say sure. I look up the restaurant and they close at 8, and I HATE going to restaurants an hour before they close. I suggest other spots and they chose a Greek restaraunt in the same area and everyone agrees.
I am at my event, and not even 30 minutes of being there, they tell me "hey go to the first spot, we're gonna meet at 6:00 PM instead." They messaged me at 5:30 pm; I am ~20-30 minutes away, but I, again, begrudgingly agree and head out, leaving my event and explaining to them I was headed out to meet other friends for dinner.
I get to the restaurant and look around and don't see them, showing up just in the knick of time. I send one of them a message asking where they were, and it's silence for 15 minutes of me looking around like an idiot. I half thought about just leaving but they said "still waiting on someone, 20 mins" so I get a table thinking it's gonna be 20 minutes. They don't show up until 7 fucking PM. I was pissed, and they apologized profusely when they sat down, but I was still annoyed throughout the entire dinner, and didn't even go to the bar cus I was upset.
Well I've been invited to one of their birthday parties and I'm trying to decide if a) I even wanna go and b) do I go and just show up late to try and send a message. Am I overreacting to my friends showing up late to things?
For some added context, I have told this same group of friends to feel free to invite me to things, but give me some heads up more than a day or so in advance so I can plan around it if need be. They would previously invite me to things the day of when I already have plans, and would "complain" or sound sad/upset when I wouldn't go.