Found out my younger brother is committing Zina and I don’t know wether to confront him
To keep it short I came to visit my younger brother by a few years who lives abroad alone and accidentally came upon an entire confession/ written diary with just about everything he’s been doing with girls while he’s been here (including a shocking body count number) and I don’t know how to go about it.
For some context we are a Muslim arab household that was never too strict to the point it was suffocating. We were raised back home in a Muslim country and my parents did a great job instilling dean within us, telling us what’s right and wrong. And although I always knew he would talk to girls here and there we always made sure to remind him of red lines that he should never cross. He would always nod and agree and promise to not come close to Zina.
I know he’s not my responsibility but he’s my baby brother and I want to help with and guide him without making him feel judged bc he tends to shut everyone out when we do that. I once caught him and his gf kissing and we had a whole conversation trying out best to guide him in the best way I could, but clearly none of that stuck. So here i am now, I don’t know how to deal with a hormonal man in his 20s who clearly seems to have strayed and although I know he knows what he’s doing wrong and he feels somewhat guilty about it ( I can tell from the things he wrote), but he doesn’t seem to be stopping himself and I don’t know how I can stop him when he’s living alone surrounded by a bunch of girls who are throwing themselves at him and he can’t say no to save his life.
And the other option is to tell my parents, but tbh they don’t have much authority against him, he’s very hot headed and they never knew how to control him. Other than the fact that my dad was never around much (always working) so he never had that paternal guidance, I also don’t want to ruin our relationship and break the trust between us by telling our parents, who I doubt would do anything at this point (he’s past the point of being raised) that’s just not the way we’ve ever gone about things. Ik he trusts me, and has told me some things here and there and if try to talk to him as best I could, but always denied the big things so ik he won’t ever bring this up until I do.
I’m posting this mostly to ask for advice from the men on this group about what approach would work on you or wether I should just forget what I read and just leave him be (I wish I hadn’t read it in the first place), but I can’t in good conscious let him keep making mistakes and now I feel this weight on my shoulder and I can’t look at him the same if I’m being honest. So any advice would be appreciated thanks!