u/Guilty-Escape-5757

Hi, looking for some advice here on communicating with neurotypical family. So, all my current immediate family are neurotypical. Whenever I end up in conflict with one of them, communication between us just doesn't seem to work. Like, to the point that it almost feels like we're both talking about a completely different situation. Our understand of what happened, what the other was asking for/trying to say, even what the problem was in the first place just doesn't line up. And it means that any conflict is really stressful and hard to resolve, and both parties generally don't feel heard or understood. I know it's an autism/neurotypical communication problem because a) I never had it with my dad, who was autistic and b) because my sister has exactly the same problem with her autistic boyfriend. Even knowing that, though, I can't work out exactly where the communication gap is or how to solve it. Anyone else have this issue, and have you found anything that helps?