u/Guilty_Lake529

Hello all I hope you’re all having a great day so I’ve been seeing this girl for 2 1/2 months and things were going very well off the bat we hate it and the vibe was there the chemistry was there. We went on 3 to 4 days before we slept together and the sex was amazing for both of us. She did say that she wanted to have a best friend first before boyfriend. I was okay with that since I want to take my time with getting to know someone but we hit it off so well in the chemistry was so strong that both of both of us were surprised. We did agree to be exclusive and neither her or me have been otherwise. Our first argument was over me apparently being dry on one of the texts so she got all defensive and she thought that I wasn’t being exclusive. Then we argued about other things that we’re kind of stupid looking back now and I ended up almost breaking up with her or going my way. Then we talked a little bit more because obviously she didn’t want to let me go that easily so we ended up seeing each other and when we saw each other in person the first thing we did was kiss and it was very passionate a strong kiss. We talked about things and we figured things out. Ever since though she has been kinda off or not necessarily off more of a distant person she used to say that she was obsessed with me and sometimes she would say jokingly that I am her man’s but in reality I knew that she really meant it. She did have trauma from before and she is in therapy currently which is a good sign because she wants to better herself and fix her issues. I can tell that she has abandonment issues and I think she is kind of an avoidant. Not sure how to deal with that since she’s the first person I have truly liked and I might even say, I think I am in love with her so I’m not sure how to deal with that. One of the arguments from before was the she would not send me any pictures but she would show or she would post them on her Instagram story/post and she did have some guy she followed and some of them she even liked pictures of them it wasn’t I’m not insecure because I humbly say that I am a good looking guy and I am very secure myself. It was more about. Why is she showing those pictures to everyone else but not me. I did have my Instagram deactivated so I couldn’t see the photos but I had my suspicions and when I opened my Instagram she had posted all these photos but she never even sent me one which again it wasn’t about her posting anything. It was just about the fact that she didn’t show them to me or sent them to me but she showed them to her entire Instagram following. I’m not sure if she is playing games or if she doesn’t truly like me like that, but when we’re in person, she’s all over me and we always hit it off so well. Maybe I am overthinking too much?