AITA (23F) for booking a vacation with my mom when my boyfriend (25M) thought we were going away together?
I (23F) have been dating my boyfriend (25M) for almost 2 years.
Today, my mom and I booked a trip to Miami during a week that I have off later this summer. When I told my boyfriend about it, he got upset because he said he thought we were planning to go away together that week since he has to take the LSAT the week after.The thing is, we had talked a little about maybe going away around that time, but nothing was ever booked. We never picked a destination, discussed a budget, made reservations, requested time off specifically for a trip together, or made any definite plans. It was more of a general conversation about potentially taking a trip together sometime around that week. When I told him about the Miami trip, he became visibly upset and annoyed. It immediately made me feel anxious because I hate disappointing people, especially him. I explained that I didn't think we had anything concrete planned and that I wasn't trying to exclude him or disregard his feelings. I also told him that I had assumed if we were going to plan something together, we would have discussed it in more detail before anyone booked anything. Since nothing had been decided, I didn't think I was interfering with existing plans. To try to compromise, I offered to go away together the weekend after I get back since it's technically still part of my vacation and would be before his LSAT. He didn't seem very receptive and remained upset. Now I'm questioning myself and wondering if I messed up. I can understand why he might feel disappointed if he had been looking forward to a trip together, but I also feel like it's unfair to expect me to keep an entire week open based on conversations about a trip that was never actually planned. AITA for booking a trip with my mom when there were no concrete plans for a trip with my boyfriend, or should I have checked with him before making the reservation?
TL;DR: My mom and I booked a trip to Miami during a week I have off. My boyfriend is upset because he thought we were going to take a trip together that week before his LSAT, but we never made any concrete plans or bookings. I offered to go away together the following weekend instead, but he's still upset. AITA?