u/Gullible-Mode-4551

i (23 F) and my bf (24 M) have been happy throughout our 5 year relationship with minor bumps, he has had depression but it hasn’t been as bad as it is now. he cut himself in front of me and since then hasnt been very kind to me (not abusive verbally or physically) but i’m not sure how to handle this on my own. it wasnt so bad before so i thought things would get better but they’re seemingly getting worse i’m currently making him quit alcohol which is the main factor in his depression and angriness. every one around me thinks he’s being emotionally abusive and that i should give myself time away from him but i dont trust he’d be okay without me there and he won’t let anyone else help him. i’ve never turned to internet strangers and i may be stupid but i just don’t know what to do anymore. i’m struggling big time and can’t talk about it without feeling guilty so im just stuck trying to help him be better. i don’t want to leave i really do love him so much and believe he can be better. i just want advice on how to handle his depression and not lose myself in the process because that’s what it feels like right now. i’m sorry if i sound so stupid but please don’t reply to tell me to leave (yes ik i probably sound dumb regardless) any advice is greatly appreciated thank you