Is constant self evaluation normal?
I recently got into an argument with someone about a pair of shoes. They were brand new and found them in my shoe cabbinet. She told me that she bought the pair for me. I asked why, because I already have a pair and dealing with financial issues(we live together). In response, she lashed out at me for not appreciating her "spontaneous personality to give" and that I am an ungrateful person whom she shouldv'e never spoiled in the first place.
We slept in different rooms afterwards. I was suffering from the anxiety of the argument and couldn't fall asleep. My brain was going through every possible thing I did wrong in the argument.
But Why? I knew I did nothing wrong, and I have evidence from every point of the argument. I shouldn't be overthinking this hard for somebody that did not deserve my gratitude at the moment.
This person is my mom by the way, and I do not feel comfortable around her ever. Should I change my ways, or should I accept this as a part of growing up?