Lack of intimacy / husband addicted to phone
We’ve been married for 7 years and throughout that time we’ve been in and out of counseling over our sex life. He’s ten years older than me and has desire for sex maybe twice a month. We had a great sex life when we were dating, but gradually he pushed me away bc he felt like our intimacy interfered with his time to read at night - which he still does but it’s being replaced by doomscrolling on his phone. He’s very affectionate and loving but not in a sexual way, and all this has caused me to lose attraction to him. However, I haven’t lost my sex drive (unfortunately) and I feel very unfulfilled. I’ve brought up opening our marriage but he’s very against that. In counseling he makes a big show of wanting a sex life and he will do the homework but as soon as the counselor thinks we are back on track he disappears again. He gets really upset with me when I bring it up - he says he doesn’t know what else to do but from my point of view he’s either uninterested or is very afraid of approaching me. I don’t know what to do at this point - we have a fantastic relationship otherwise but it bothers me that our sex life has died.