Not divorced yet, but getting tired of playing the marriage game…
I’m getting really burnt out trying to play a game that I have no chance of winning.
I’m well aware that other guy’s are in “worse” situations than me and have to deal with cheating, abuse, etc, but I didn’t get married to spend the rest of my life convincing my wife to want me.
Long story short; my wife no longer desires me or has feelings for me, but in her mind, she is convinced that I can change that by emotionally connecting with her again. We are on year 3 of trying to fix this, but I would say it started about 6 years ago.
Backstory: Been with my wife for 15 years. Married for 8 of those. We have 1 kid who is 4 years old. I’m 41, she’s 35. Started seeing signs 2 years into the marriage of her withdrawing, but didn’t think much of it. Didn’t realize it was going to lead up to this point though. Wife suffered from severe postpartum after having a kid and still hasn’t bounced back even after years of 1 on 1 therapy, marriage counseling, and meds. She is convinced it’s fixable and I’m convinced that the more I try to fix it, the worse I’m making it.