u/Gullible_Produce9902

Bought an old San Francisco house in 2020 with a great rate, but the amount of work has become overwhelming — anyone else in this situation?

I bought a ~100-year-old house in SF in 2020. Like a lot of people, I feel very fortunate to have bought when I did because the interest rate is excellent compared with today and the house price has recently appraised for $700K more than what i bought it for. On paper, it feels like I should be grateful and just stay put.

But the reality of owning an older house has been much harder than I expected.

The house has good bones and we like the neighborhood, but over the past few years we’ve realized there are a lot of layered issues: moisture/waterproofing, drainage, old windows, roof leaks, failing stucco, foundation/crawlspace concerns, an unfinished/dirt-floor lower area, old plumbing/sewer questions, electrical/plumbing unknowns, and general “old house” complexity. A lot of it seems interconnected, so it’s hard to know where to start.

The biggest issue is that I feel like no one can confidently tell me what the correct plan is.

I’ve talked to contractors, engineers, waterproofing/drainage people, window people, roofers, stucco people, etc. Everyone seems to see only their slice of the problem. One person says drainage is the priority. Another says roof/windows/stucco. Another says interior waterproofing. Another says don’t trap moisture behind drywall. Another says you need to demo first. Another says you need plans. Another says you don’t. I keep getting conflicting or low-confidence answers.

It has created this awful loop where I’m trying to be responsible and not make a bad six-figure decision, but the more people I talk to, the less clear the answer gets. I feel like I’ve been spinning my wheels for years.

The financial dilemma is also hard. Because I bought in 2020, moving/selling is not simple. If I sell and buy again, I give up a very low interest rate and buy into today’s much higher-rate environment. Even “downsizing” may not actually lower my monthly cost much. So there’s a strong argument to stay and fix the house.

But staying means potentially taking on a huge, multi-phase remodel/remediation project that could easily run into $1M if we do everything thats needed, possibly more over time. I’m not a developer, contractor, or architect. I’m just a homeowner trying to make a rational decision without getting eaten alive by scope creep, bad sequencing, or bad advice and cannot afford a design build company and need to do things affordably.

I’m trying to figure out:

  1. Has anyone else bought an older Bay Area/SF house and later realized the work was far bigger and more complex than expected?
  2. How did you decide whether to stay and renovate vs sell and move on?
  3. Who actually helped you create a real plan? A GC? Architect? Structural engineer? Civil engineer? Building envelope consultant? Waterproofing specialist? DIY?
  4. How do you avoid getting stuck between specialists where everyone recommends their own trade but no one owns the full strategy?
  5. For old Bay Area homes, what is the right order of operations when you have moisture/drainage/window/roof/stucco/foundation concerns?
  6. At what point did you decide, “This house is worth fixing,” versus, “This is too much complexity and I should sell”?

How did you get unstuck? Who was the most useful professional to hire? And if you could go back, would you still fix the house — or would you sell and simplify? Any GC or sub referrals?
THX!

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u/Gullible_Produce9902 — 22 hours ago