u/Gullible_Star_3447

Hi, I’m new here. I’ll try to keep it short and sweet but also give some background. I am UK based.

So my father is a hoarder however it didn’t really impact us as he was pretty absent through childhood. My mum the complete opposite.

My sister is an absolute hoarder. This is where I need the help. For years and years as a family we have tried to help declutter and clean. It has taken me years to build up trust enough for her to let me get rid of things and not have her permission for every single piece of paper and it is only me that she will allow to do this. She has a fair few underlying conditions both physical and mental. I am diagnosed ADHD she is undiagnosed but very obviously ADHD. I have spent countless days and hours decluttering a room only to return a few weeks later to it being bad again and it is SOUL DESTROYING. She has a teenage daughter and I have my own children. It’s hard for me to find time to help now as it’s unsafe for my children to be there most of the time. Currently she’s made a fair bit of progress although most of the things have been moved to her room and she cannot access her bed or wardrobe.

I have congratulated her on the epic achievement she has made however this is severely impacting her daughter’s mental health. Me and her made a start on her room and she got rid of a lot of stuff. I don’t think my niece is a hoarder as she litteraly was happy to just get rid of so much stuff. I think her room is cluttered as she’s a victim of circumstance in this situation. I guess I’m asking what physical help can I try to find for her? I know hoarding in a mental illness. What would a diagnosis achieve? She already takes medication for anxiety etc so would a medication help her declutter? I don’t really understand. I also know she would not attend therapy. I reached out to a charity but they weren’t really what I was looking for. She also paid a company for a while to come and declutter and clean but it was soooo slow going it was pointless.
We even applied for that tv show as at this point there’s so much stuff that it needs to be all taken away and sorted and then brought back in. Presently it just gets moved from room to room 😭😭.

Anyway I’m sorry for rambling and I hope this makes sense. Also is there any help for kids living with this in the UK? My niece doesn’t have social media and I don’t think she has Reddit but I think it would be nice for her to see she isn’t alone. I worry she’s vulnerable and an easy target for predators due to where she lives and her home life. Thank you

Sorry if it’s been mentioned but I can’t be bothered to scroll all the posts. Was just pondering. So, you know that feeling of falling from height when we are dreaming? I’m sure we’ve all had it at some point. Mine is always falling down stairs and then BOOM I wake up. What if that’s what the BiW meant when he said to Tabitha ‘this is the only way’ and then pushed her from the lighthouse?

I know they aren’t dreaming in the normal sense as in their bodies are somewhere and their minds are in a dream. They are physically in Fromville but I’m wondering if that’s how they escape maybe, possibly, probably not, was just a thought.

Hi all, just had a few questions if someone could clarify. Not sure if it had been explained and I missed it or if it’s yet to be answered.

1. They say the children were born in the dark and died in the dark. I’ve assumed that they were maybe delivered in the root cellar like Fatima’s demon child and then taken down to the caves; however, the sacrifices aren’t babies. They would have needed to be breast fed and kept alive so they could be sacrificed later. So were they allowed to initially stay with their parents? OG Jade and Tabitha refused to sacrifice their child, so were they allowed to bring her/him up in the village and then refuse or did they initial say yes and then go back to save them? If they lived in such an awful place they would have surely left so I’m thinking the not being able to leave thing had already started.

2. The current setting is semi modernish - when does the setting change? It looks the same as when victor arrived, so does it change when every single person is dead? We have the ruins and the settlement but there were other dates in the bottles but seemingly no sign of where they maybe lived? I know colony house is probably older than say the diner but wouldn’t there be signs of structures from other dates/ eras? If one child always survives like victor did then there is always one person left over so surely at some point someone would ask why a new building popped up?

Hope this makes sense, just a few things that keep bugging me. Thanks to anyone that takes the time to answer ☺️