u/Gullible_System162

I feel like Asian American I’ve always been stuck between the 2 worlds and trying to right balance. I’ve grown up pleasing my parents. I’m starting to learn that I can’t always please my parents and I have to do what is best for my family I’ve created. But by doing that it’s creating tension/problems with my side of the family. It’s not that I don’t love my side of the family. It’s just I’ve adopted a lot of I guess American views on things like not living with my parents and I can’t devote all my time to them and my child all while working.

I feel like such a disappointment/bad child to them and placing boundaries they’re not understanding including with my sibling.

Does anyone feel this way? What does it mean to be a good child to your parents that raised you? I feel like I’m doing everything wrong.

I’m considering getting a personal loan and i was wondering how the process worked. Do they put money into your bank account so you pay off your debt? I know there’s interest rates and stuff I’m curious about how you’re given the money.

I just want to know I’m not the only one who wants a different lifestyle from their traditional family. How did your families take it? And did it get better?

I told my mom I wanted different things from her like I don’t want to live with her as married 32 year old with a family of her own. She didn’t take it well and now we’re not speaking to each other. She’s also an old, healthy, and retired if that helps.