Is he just not interested anymore?
I've been talking to a guy for about 5 weeks. We met through work in the entertainment industry and both live in LA.
A few weeks ago, we went on a date and kissed at the end. Since then, we've continued texting regularly. What's confusing me is that I'm usually the one who initiates conversations, but whenever I do, he responds enthusiastically, asks follow-up questions, remembers details about my life, and actively keeps the conversation going.
He seems interested in getting to know me, but he's very guarded when it comes to sharing things about himself. Most of our conversations revolve around work, random topics, joking around, and whatever is happening in our lives. He's opened up a little about broader topics, such as how difficult dating can be in our industry, but he rarely shares personal details or deeper feelings.
His communication can also feel inconsistent. Sometimes he's very engaged and talkative, and other times he seems more distant. Despite that, he continues to stay in contact, asks questions, and seems invested in our conversations.
Recently, we worked together again on another project, and things felt noticeably different in person. He didn't really make an effort to start conversations with me, and I honestly found it easier to talk to co-stars I'd never met before. When we did talk, it felt a little awkward, and most of our conversations revolved around inside jokes from the project where we originally met.
One detail that may or may not be relevant is that I had a romantic scene partner on this project. During a conversation about dating—which he brought up—he mentioned that he thinks it would be difficult to date someone whose job involves kissing other people and building on-screen chemistry with them.
At this point, he hasn't asked me on a second date, even though we've continued talking for weeks.
From an outside perspective, does this sound like someone who is interested but cautious, shy, or slow to open up? Or does it sound more like someone who enjoys talking to me but isn't motivated to pursue anything further? And based on the situation as a whole, would you expect him to ask me out again?