u/Gundham_oof

I am 16 years old. For my entire life I’ve been in some form of sport (swimming, soccer, tae kwon do, cross country), but last December I had a bout of mental health issues that made me lose all motivation to do anything. I stopped running, going to the gym, and eating healthy.

I went from 170lbs at 6’2, to 220lbs in just 7 months. Because of my height the fat was more evenly spread out, and coincidentally my fashion sense changed to wear more form concealing clothing so my peers didn’t really notice. But I know I can’t keep living like this, especially with school starting soon.

A lot of my friends have had weight loss journeys, but I’m afraid to ask them for advice cause I’ve always been the “fit” guy.

This morning I walked 12km, taking a route that includes downhill and uphill sections, and burned ~800 calories. I tried running some sections but I lost all my stamina from when I used to run regularly and I had to stop after a couple 100 meters. I don’t know what else I should do to burn calories (as in the past I’d just go running or walking) cause I don’t think 800 calories is enough to form any meaningful deficit (unless I eat one meal a day).

I’m just wondering what I should do to increase my calories burned, my running stamina, and any other tips you guys might have.

Thank you in advance!

Back in like the 8th grade I dated a girl, my only relationship btw, and it wasn’t anything serious. Due to being two awkward 8th graders we barely did anything. Held hands once, kissed never, hugged twice, would barely go on dates, etc. Then one day I go to her house, and we go to her room to play Minecraft, and she shows me a condom and raises her eyebrows. I didn’t want to have sex at 14, let alone with a girl who I haven’t even kissed yet, but I didn’t want to say that outright so I just said “there’s other people home” and she immediately backed off.

Then we broke up for unrelated reasons, and we continued our lives. She got with a guy in the grade below us and they’ve been happy ever since.

A couple months ago though, she messaged me on Snapchat saying how much she hates her boyfriend. Keep in mind we haven’t texted in 2 years and I’m decently chill with her current boyfriend. She starts going off about how all he wants is sex and how she’s so much more than that and she doesn’t know what to do. I tell her to calm down and try to talk to him about it, to which she says she’s tried before but to no avail.

She stopped texting me directly after this and didn’t text me anything more until last night.

Just like last time she abruptly texts me, this time she says “wanna see something?”. Me being naive I say sure and she sends me a bare ass pic. I tell her why would you send me this you have a boyfriend, and she starts sending more and more explicit photos throughout the next couple hours.

I decided to stop opening her snaps and not text her. I’m pretty sure she was high or drunk or something.

How do I address this while not getting jumped by her boyfriend?