I’m so upset the grad plus loans are over and now I have to take out a private loan with 11% interest. I’m just looking for comfort really… any chance the loan will come back? Sincerely… an incoming law student.
AITA for expecting my boyfriend to support us more while I’m in law school?
My boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) are moving to the Boston suburbs in August because I’m starting law school there. We’ve been together 3 years and currently live with my parents near Philadelphia. He’s known since the beginning of our relationship that I wanted to go to law school, and he also encouraged me to look at schools in New England because he has family near New Hampshire.
I’ve already committed to the school and taken out loans, so there’s really no backing out now. We both agreed it was time to move out of our parents’ houses and finally live together on our own. The issue is Boston is insanely expensive.
My parents are helping me with $1000/month toward rent, but I won’t really be working during my first year besides maybe occasional babysitting. Right now we both work full time and make similar money, though I’m a nanny with no benefits/PTO and he works an office job. We’re both trying to save around $10k before the move.
Lately, though, he’s become very stingy about money. We use my car everywhere, but he’ll complain about paying for gas or breakfast, and I feel like I’m covering more than I should. I suggested we open a joint account just for rent/groceries/utilities while still keeping separate accounts otherwise. He said he’d “think about it.”
I also told him I think rent shouldn’t be split exactly 50/50 once we move because he’ll still have full-time income while I’ll be in school full time. He disagrees and says it’s not his job to support me because I chose to go to school for 3 more years. He thinks everything should stay 50/50.
What hurts is that this move and school choice were decisions we talked about together for a long time. I feel like we’re supposed to be a team, and eventually my career/income would benefit both of us. He says Boston is too expensive and feels upset that’s the school I landed on even though he pushed for us to move closer to his family in New Hampshire and we discussed this beforehand .
I genuinely can’t tell if I’m being unreasonable. AITA for expecting my boyfriend to contribute more financially while I’m in law school?