Anxious attachment + a girl who won't commit is destroying me mentally need advice
I've been dating a girl for about a month and a half. The dates are fun, we both seem to enjoy them, and things have been going well intimately too. We've been on 10+ dates, been to each other's places, and I've genuinely caught real feelings for her.
The problem is she's still dating other people and when I asked if she'd be exclusive with me she basically avoided the question the answer was no, but without any explanation. She's actually encouraged me to use dating apps too, which I've done, and I've gotten matches that could go somewhere but honestly I have zero interest in anyone else right now. She's the only one on my mind.
The issue is I have an anxious attachment style, and this half in half out situation is a serious mental drain for me. I care for her deeply but I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this without it getting exclusive. I'm torn between waiting it out or having an honest conversation about it.
I'm thinking of either telling her in person next time we meet just being upfront that I can't keep going if we're not exclusive or sending a long text laying it all out. Not sure which is the better move though.
Any advice?