u/Gvlok

I was starting college, and in one of my classes there was a beautiful girl who immediately caught my attention. It turns out she was my friend’s ex and had a questionable past of cheating with two of my friends. I ignored the warnings, and after a few months I gathered the courage to text her.

We chatted for a few weeks, mostly about mutual friends. After a while, I asked her out and she accepted, so we started “dating.” She didn’t want to put any labels on it, but we acted like a couple. We went on dates, watched movies, and hung out a lot. She was amazing, and we were having a good time.

But one day, she ghosted my texts and started avoiding me on campus. I was very confused and weirded out, so I asked her multiple times what was going on, but she kept avoiding me. A bunch of our friends noticed and started asking me questions.

That same day, our mutual friends asked her what was going on, and she said she felt pressured into doing that by her friends. They told her I was a huge red flag and that she was scared to be seen near me, or that someone would tell her friends. I haven't even met her friends.

After that, Charlie started replying and talking to me again. For the next few days, the four of us (me and my friend and his girlfriend, along with Charlie) talked about the situation. But Charlie was very vague about the reason and said she just wanted to be friends.

So I asked her why she would go along with her friends so much, but I later learned from another friend that she was upset that I asked her that question. I was so confused and stressed because I didn’t understand what I did wrong or what had happened.

Then winter break came. We still texted, but we weren’t hanging out or going on dates anymore. One day, literally on Christmas, she blocked me.

I wasn’t even angry, just very confused. I texted one of our friends to be a sort of “spy,” and Charlie said her friends had talked to her parents, and now her phone was being checked so she couldn’t text me.

Long story short, I was blocked on every social media, and that one friend was my only source of information about what was happening. Until I found a way to text her again.

I texted her to apologize and said I accepted everything and wished her to be happy. But the next day, her friends texted me saying she doesn’t like me and that I should stop pursuing her.

At that point, I was pissed but also really sad and depressed. I kept thinking, “What the hell happened so fast?”

What I can’t accept is not that it ended, but how fast everything changed. Even though it wasn’t a long relationship, the sudden switch up really confused and hurt me. I still feel betrayed.

Anyway, this happened about a year ago. She now has another boyfriend that she broke up with after a few months, and she’s still in my class. Sometimes(I don’t know if it’s because of me)but I catch her staring at me.

AND AGAIN I have never even meet or interact with her friend.