17 month old Interested in testing
Hello All,
I am a first-time mom of a cute (and busy) 17-month-old. There are a lot of varying comments on the internet about early reading, phonics, etc., so I thought I could post my question here.
My 17 month old has close to 100 words and is obsessed with books, anything that spins, water, and balls. We probably read close to 20 books a day (his request). ( I am writing this now 0700 am my time, and we have already read 5 books this morning with his morning milk). We do full days of free play. Nothing other than his three meals, bathtime, bedtime, and 3x a week scheduled activities are scheduled.
Over the last few weeks, I have noticed that he is requesting to be "tested" ( not sure what other word to use). We have been singing him a cute alphabet song (just adding letters as we go) since he was 3 months old. It goes like this: "A is for Apple, A says Ah Ah Ah." We do about 10 letters now. He is now requesting we sing the song, and we hold space for him to say the sound or the animal/object that the letter corresponds to. He is doing the same thing with his first 100-word/ first animal picture books. He goes to a page, and instead of me saying, " This is that, he is requesting that we say, "What is this animal? " and he responds. If I say the animal before he does or guesses, he tells me no. If he doesn't know the animal, he says help. If he guesses wrong, we tell him what the animal is and show him the animal he originally said.
I don't think that what we are doing is unhealthy, but I don't want this to turn into scheduled educational time as I think it is not necessary at his age ( and potentially harmful)
How do I continue to engage him in a way that is healthy and not focused on "getting the answer right?" I think that we are working on how we phrase our questions so it feels less like testing and more like taking turns. But any other suggestions would be useful.
Again, I believe we are focusing on how my child wants to play versus us wanting him to perform but I want to do it in a way that feels less " performative."
Any great articles or research on how to engage a very engaged 17-month-old that my pediatrician told me might be " a little intense."
P.S. I was an intense child and grew up to a high-functioning, intense adult with a very intense job. It might just be his temperament. LOL