i know this must be a weird question but am i not allowed to call myself trans because im also non binary?
i (amab) do not identify myself as a binary woman. i do still call myself a transgender person. i id as transfeminine non binary. i am being informed that i cant fly the trans flag because im non binary. apparently since those are technically different things its not cool for me to consider myself trans at all. also being informed that im just a crossdresser (which personally i consider a slur in this context) because i dont choose binary womanhood and am comfortable where i am. i find this insulting because while that may be the case that i as a amab do wear womens clothes. it is not just a kink to me. i barely own any male clothes and havent in years. is what im being told right? this feels like a strange hill to die on. for what its worth this argument was made by a cis woman... and idk... that just feels like not her place to argue. in my opinion im trans first enby second but she was real mad at something i didn't even claim. i dont even think shes transphobic at all. i think she just doesn't like me personally. i have to put up with her for time being but shes always at my throat about this. is it as problematic as she says? cuz if im in the wrong pls tell me.