u/H1n1911

There’s used to be a community called Lebanesegirlies I was a part of but it seems to be deleted or gone now so I’ll resort to posting here.

Looking to get hair extensions soon — I’ve never had them and was wondering if you guys have any links or IG accounts for any salons in Lebanon? No particular neighborhood, I’ll go anywhere for the right price and right quality

My hair is already a little below my shoulders but I want to add more length, mid-low back What is the average cost or what could I expect to pay in LBP?

If you’re a Leo, how would you feel if the person you’re sexually interested in gives it up right away? How easily would you get bored?

Backstory:
I met a Leo man, we had lots of mini encounters, short and sweet casual conversations. I added him on FB and somehow we matched on FB dating! I thought he was closer to my age, turns out I’m about a decade older. 😳 He asked me if that was my real age because he didn’t believe it, said I’m very youthful, energetic and don’t look my age. I basically said at this point I’m a cougar!! He joked that he wouldn’t mind being a cub 🤣

We exchanged numbers and things escalated QUICKLY. He invited me over to his house the first day we text and I knew things were going to get spicy by the way our conversation was heating up. I came over with the intention of maaaayyybe getting to 2nd base but I couldn’t resist him 😫

I didn’t know what I was getting into, my GOD did he put it on me!! Now I’m sprung. I want it all the time from him but don’t want to appear desperate! I have an extremely high sex drive I want it all the time! 😫🫣

We haven’t had “the talk” yet because we want to have it in person. He caught the flu so we’ll meet up again once he’s better.. likely sometime this upcoming week but I’m hoping this turns into a FWB situation.

Texting has been awkward for me. He’s text me almost everyday, but I sometimes triple text, or reply too fast. I don’t want him to feel that he’s obligated to text me everyday. I went a day without responding (there wasn’t much to add to the conversation) and asked him today how he was feeling. Made a joke with a little innuendo and anticipating his reply. I’m so eager for the next time because I have a few surprises:)

How do i maintain my cool, show interest but not be over the top? I feel things will be much better after we talk, set expectations and boundaries but im dying a little inside each day in anticipation 🤣
what do I do in the meantime?! Flat out Tell him how I feel? Slow down my texts and give him room to “chase” after my attention?? Don’t make any more mention about our next hookup?

(-backstory-)
met a man over 2 years ago, from my country of origin and we met online and entered a relationship for the sake of marriage. I visited him (as he’s unable to come to my current country of residence) last year and we married temporarily, I only spent 10 days. I met his family, he met my aunt, I fell in love with his family and deeply fell in love with him. A month after my visit, he tells me he doesn’t believe we can continue due to reasons he couldn’t fully understand or specify. We cried for 2 hours on the phone, he admitted that he has never felt this way over any other woman from his past, never shed a tear over a woman not even his ex-wife during their divorce. He loved me deeply to my soul as I loved him.

Long story short, we could never truly separate our bond or connection. We continued talking, almost daily on video, I still stay in touch with his sister.. we agreed that we would try and give our relationship another chance, but that it’s best we are open to continue our search for a suitable spouse. In the meantime I met an Egyptian man, and ended our engagement after a few months due to incompatibility. During the time I was engaged, he met someone.. and things became serious.

Him and I are so open, honest and comfortable with each other. We tell each other everything… the new woman asked about his past and he chose not to go into details about me because of her jealousy, insecurity and previous husband cheated on her. He knows if he married me, I would be okay if he married another wife, Alhamdillulah I’ve worked very much on myself and continue to do so, I am more open-minded than most women I suppose.

He flew to meet her this week and I have been respectful to give him space. Although he said he would never marry a woman on the first visit, I found out from his sister that he wrote his ketab ketab, which shocked me a little because of his stance, but I trust he made the best decision.

I love him sincerely for the sake of Allah, and want nothing for him to have the best life, but he is my secret prayer. My only desire in this dunya is to be honored to be his wife but I am worried…

I will come to visit in late August and stay for 1 month. His sister told me he is not bringing his wife back with him, that he at least wants to wait until til after muharram to go get her. (Im not even sure if they consummated their marriage yet) I am arriving during the end of the last week of muharram. (By the way, the timing, the marriage, none of this was pre-planned, SubhanAllah. I changed my airline reservations 3x due to family obligations and I didn’t make him aware of my new date of arrival, nor did I have the facts that he got married)

TL;DR
(-My questions-)
If they are married, yet apart.. would it be halal to have a temporary marriage since his wife is physically unable to fulfill his needs/desires?

I don’t believe she would allow him to have a second wife 😔 but is a temporary marriage considered having a second wife if we don’t have a ketab ketab?? Is it also haram if he doesn’t tell his wife? Meaning is he required to tell her if he ever needs to have muta?

I am conflicted with my own moral objections, I don’t want to hurt my sister in faith or cause harm or wrong-doing in their marriage, but I planned to see him and his family (I have gifts for them) before they even began talking. I have known him for 2.5 years, I miss him so dearly. I wish to hug him and touch him but in a halal way and I am worried about moral consequences 😔