I met an unemployed man and his situation is concerning me
Hello people.
I met a man a few weeks ago via Grindr, and it was interesting because he's really closer to me and my living area, where I work and go to the gym. Also, we share some kinks, so we did some match.
In the first meeting he asked me to bring a 1.5 liters coke, at first I thought it was just like a “tribute”, so nothing rare here. However, in the second date he asked me for a sandwich and the coke, at this point I still was thinking “it is just a tribute”. We spend some time together fucking and chatting, until he touched the topic of his current state of unemployment and how it has affected him to the point that he's eating only a few days. Most of the time he survives only with water and Coke (living on sugar, literally). The man does indeed look worn out, for his age (50 and something), and he's in a literal vulnerable situation since it seems he doesn't have any support network, even seems that the family is far away (he didn't touch to many details on it).
On the third date I felt something uncomfortable, and asked he about his situation and what is he doing to solve it. His reply was “I try to live happily and comfortable”, but obviously no one survives only of feelings, the man hasn't eaten a decent meal in days.
I wouldn't like to seem harsh and rude, but I cannot date a man that is in this current situation and also that seems is not doing mostly nothing to solve it. It is not the first time that I date a man in unemployment state, but at least the last I met was putting a lot of effort to stabilize and find a new way (and his situation was really harder compared to this last one, and fortunately found his way).
What should I do people, what would you do? Should I block him, try to help him (I mean, I also work and have my personal spend)? It is really getting confusing for me.