Long story short(ish) my husband and I moved across the country a couple of years ago with my 1 year old and my mother. We brought my mom along bc her and her partner separated after 20 years and she was and is in way too much debt for someone who has been on disability and now social security. She couldn’t afford to rent so it was the only option I could see. Plus, I do love her.
She is a pot head.
Like, to the point of not realizing the effects it has on her and destroying relationships bc she refuses to stop (ie her partner of 20 years). Shes a fully capable and healthy 70 year old but smokes daily and when she does, she is slow (physically and mentally), constantly forgetting things that just happened and will sit on a chair in her room for 12 hours staring at her phone, eating terribly…just simply caring nothing for her health. She doesn’t contribute anything to the household as far as chores, grocery shopping, and hanging out with her granddaughter seems like a chore to her. When she doesn’t smoke, she’s even admitted to feeling clearer and better. But then falls back into her pattern and even lies to me about it which I find so weird.
Now, I’m not someone who is anti-weed. I’ve partaken in my share of fun and I do realize, although rare, productive pot heads exist. She isn’t one of them.
I’ve tried getting her to cut back and she gets defensive and claims she’ll prove it to me that she can be productive (it never happens and just ends up in an explosion between the two of us). I just don’t think I can live with her for the rest of her life. It’s only been 2 years and I’m so incredibly unhappy. But i moved her across the country with the intention of caring for her as she ages..plus, she doesn’t have anyone. So I’m not sure what to do…
It’s funny bc i used to think her ex partner was just dramatic when she would complain about my mom’s bad habits/laziness but now it’s so clear to me.
Should I just forget the sourness I feel and let her waste away? I mean she is 70 but she’s is decent shape and COULD be better with effort.
I just dunno.
UGH.