I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months (we met 6 months ago, started as friends). In the beginning, he was really attentive, we had deep conversations, and I felt understood. But over the past month, things have changed a lot.
He’s become really busy with college, learning trading, editing, etc which I understand, but now we barely have meaningful conversations. We haven’t had a proper deep talk in almost a month. He mostly texts about tech (his gadgets, new things he got), talks about his day, but doesn’t really ask about mine anymore.
What confuses me is how he explains his time. When he’s not busy, he says he’s spending time with his mother watching movies with her, talking to her, or just being with her. And I completely respect that, I don’t want to come between that. But then he also spends time with his friends, hanging out, and seems present there. After that, when he’s finally “free,” he says he wants to sleep, eat, or just spend time alone thinking.
So it feels like I come last, after his mom time, friend time, and his own time. I’m also busy (school, content creation, responsibilities), but I still try to make time for him.
I’ve started pulling back because I feel unwanted, and he hasn’t really noticed or asked. He still says “I love you,” but it feels kind of empty now, and even I don’t feel the same saying it back.
Am I wrong for wanting more quality time and effort? Is this just a phase, or is it a red flag? What should I do? Ps: he still asks for my photos and compliments me..
Thank you for reading.