Fearing a future of isolation
22M aroace here.
I’ve been in this sub a while, and I guess this is kinda more about aro than ace part. I am very lonely, and have been for a long while, and I am scared that this is just how things are going to be forever.
I constantly am bombarded by the “inevitable” eventuality of people getting married and having kids and not having times for friends anymore. But where does that leave me?
I imagine the response for many is QPRs, but that feels like it limits closeness to just other aroace people. But with the people I am friends with are by and large not that. I don’t want to lose these friends.
Everyone just acts like it’s okay, but it feels like the only people okay with that are those who have romantic relationships to fall back on. But I didn’t even get to have the close friendships in the first place and now I’m just supposed to say “oh well” and act like they never existed at all? Not to mention, as a guy whose friends are mostly girls there’s a stigma around anything I do; persistence isn’t just frowned upon its seen as codependent even in its minor forms.
Truth be told, I’m not wholly sure I’m fully aroace, I might be demi and I won’t know. But even then, it all seems wrong. Is the future really so lonely? Is it a cultural thing and can it be changed?
any advice or affirmation could help here. Thank you.