u/Halybug

AIO to want to break up with my fiance?

My fiance (21m) and I (21f) have been together for 5 years. The relationship was a pretty hard adjustment for both of us, he had a bunch of habits that negatively impacted our relationship for awhile, but we improved our communication and Things were going great, but I got the feeling to check his phone. I found a BUNCH of hentai stuff. Games, screenshots, subscriptions to patreon, even videos on YouTube. It was everywhere, on everything. That was about 1-2 years ago, I obviously talked to him about it, told him how it made me feel and what he should expect if he continues to indulge. He said it wouldn't happen again, deleted/blocked everything. He did good for a while, and I really did believe it was past us. We got engaged, I checked and there was nothing on the phone, months passed. Checked again, both phone and his computer. And yep, sure enough there it is. So we had a conversation again, I told him obviously he has an addiction and needs some kind of help, he agreed. My only major condition was that if he relapsed, he had to be honest. No hiding, no secrets. That was two months ago. He joined a support group (?), and will tell me if he has been having any urges if I ask. But always says he hasn't acted on them. Well, I checked his phone last night and he's visited the rule 34 website like 4 times in the last week and a half. So, I'm kinda done I think. He doesn't respect my boundaries, my feelings, or either of us. I can't help but think he's kind of like a discord mod now that I'm losing my attraction to him, and it really doesn't help me try to not be a raging bitch towards him. I told him we're gonna have to talk later, and he just said alright instead of the normal "why :0?" So I bet he has an idea. AIO?

TLDR Fiance has a bad hentai/porn addiction and lies about it, didn't respect my boundaries so thinking about leaving

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u/Halybug — 11 days ago