u/Hannah_R97

I recently had to move back in with my parents (rental crisis, economy blah blah blah) - super grateful. I pay board, cook, clean etc etc. My Mum has always been narcissistic - my childhood was very traumatic, she did not love us at all as children, would outwardly say she never wanted kids and hates kids. My older sister moved out when I was still in school and my mum could not cope with losing control of her, therefore, I became the "golden child" and my personality was built around making her happy. My parents relationship was horrific but they stayed together out of necessity (Mum needed his money and told us that as kids). As I got older I have started stepping back and trying to not be the problem solver for her, however, now that I am back home, I find her rage baiting me into a response when I am trying to protect my peace. She spent an hour trying to log in to her online banking and she REFUSES to just ask me for help but will say remarks like "I guess I will never be able to log in and pay bills" "I guess I will just throw this bill in the bin as I cant log in" "hmm nope it says password wrong....(fishing for me to miraculously know her password)". Like its the tone, she is just poking me until I go over and fucking do it for her. Or if I get home from work, she will start asking me a million and one questions about her life decisions, should she buy these shoes, should she start pilates and I am trying to ignore her because its non stop her wanting me to engage with her but she now finishes her sentence with a question so I have to respond. When ever she talks I feel my anxiety spiking - slight change in her tone - do I need fix the problem before she blows up, I feel like I am a child again tip toeing around her. I just need to save a little more and I am out of here - although she did say, she would move in with me when I get my house - so guess I am moving to the moon :)