How often do you meet your university friends after graduation?
And what did you actually gain from them?
I’m asking seriously because I’m trying to decide if university is actually worth it or not beyond just the degree
I’m 18 and my 2nd year is almost ending. Now I want to start university, but realistically I probably can’t get into LUMS or other top universities because of my numbers. Even universities like UMT feel difficult for me right now.
Most likely I’ll end up going to places like Superior or something similar.
But I’m extremely curious about people who studied at LUMS.
Not just academically — I want to know:
Honestly, I also feel an inferiority complex in front of rich or elite people sometimes, so I wanted to ask:
How do you overcome that feeling?
And most importantly:
What is one extremely valuable lesson or thing you learned at LUMS that genuinely changed your thinking or life?
Would genuinely love honest answers from people who studied there.
I’m 18 from Lahore and my college is about to complete InshaAllah. Honestly I didn’t prepare much for exams but hopefully pass ho jao ga.
Now I genuinely don’t want to go to a physical university because I want to focus on my work/business.
Right now I’m earning around 60K from a job and last month I made around 200K from a client too (don’t know about this month yet).
The issue is everyone keeps saying:
“If you skip university, you’ll miss one of the biggest parts of your life.”
And honestly I don’t know what to do.
Should I:
If you were already earning at 18, what would you choose?
Would appreciate real advice from people who experienced this.
Hi, hope everyone is doing well
Sorry for long description but kindly advice me
I’m 18 years old from Lahore and working in digital marketing.
From the outside, my life probably looks exciting. Right now I’m earning around 215K PKR monthly, and recently I also got an opportunity connected to a US client paying around $8/hour.
But mentally, I feel extremely confused about my future, business, partnerships, and what kind of life I actually want.
I started my journey at 17 when I applied for jobs on Indeed and joined a startup marketing agency run by two childhood friends. Initially they hired me at 40K PKR, later increased it to 60K.
Over time, I became deeply involved in the company and basically became their right hand.
One of the founders brought in an international agency project/client, and I was heavily involved in handling the execution and communication side of that work. After some months, I started joining calls with those clients directly.
Then one day, one of the US clients from that agency work personally offered me another opportunity worth around $1200/month.
I accepted it, but I didn’t want to hide anything from my employers because they genuinely trusted me and treated me well. So instead of secretly doing things behind their back, I told them honestly and asked for some compensation/adjustment.
Thankfully, they respected that and agreed.
The problem now is not money.
It’s direction.
The two founders are around 28–30 years old, while I’m only 18. Their mindset is completely different from mine.
They believe in:
But I come from a very unsupportive family background, so my mindset is completely different.
Deep inside, I don’t think about scaling first.
I think about:
Because realistically, I know nobody is coming to support me later in life.
They always tell me:
“Don’t focus too much on saving. Spend, scale, build bigger, get more clients.”
And maybe they’re right.
But honestly, I don’t know.
The biggest confusion for me is partnership.
They strongly believe:
“A single person can only go to a certain level alone. Big money comes from teams and partnerships.”
And logically, I understand that.
But emotionally, I feel the complete opposite.
Even if I could make more money through partnership, I still feel like I would rather build something independently.
In my mind I always think:
Why give ownership away when eventually I can hire skilled people myself?
For example:
If someday I grow bigger, can’t I just hire employees instead of sharing equity or ownership?
At the same time, maybe I’m immature and thinking too emotionally because of my age and background.
Another issue:
Now that I got this US opportunity, I also fear losing my original role because my employers clearly told me:
“If you focus more there, eventually we’ll need someone else because our own work will suffer.”
Which honestly is fair from their side too.
So now I feel mentally stuck between:
I genuinely want practical advice from people who are ahead in business or life.
Would genuinely appreciate honest opinions.Hi, hope everyone is doing well
Sorry for long description but kindly advice me
I’m 18 years old from Lahore and working in digital marketing.
From the outside, my life probably looks exciting. Right now I’m earning around 215K PKR monthly, and recently I also got an opportunity connected to a US client paying around $8/hour.
But mentally, I feel extremely confused about my future, business, partnerships, and what kind of life I actually want.
I started my journey at 17 when I applied for jobs on Indeed and joined a startup marketing agency run by two childhood friends. Initially they hired me at 40K PKR, later increased it to 60K.
Over time, I became deeply involved in the company and basically became their right hand.
One of the founders brought in an international agency project/client, and I was heavily involved in handling the execution and communication side of that work. After some months, I started joining calls with those clients directly.
Then one day, one of the US clients from that agency work personally offered me another opportunity worth around $1200/month.
I accepted it, but I didn’t want to hide anything from my employers because they genuinely trusted me and treated me well. So instead of secretly doing things behind their back, I told them honestly and asked for some compensation/adjustment.
Thankfully, they respected that and agreed.
The problem now is not money.
It’s direction.
The two founders are around 28–30 years old, while I’m only 18. Their mindset is completely different from mine.
They believe in:
But I come from a very unsupportive family background, so my mindset is completely different.
Deep inside, I don’t think about scaling first.
I think about:
Because realistically, I know nobody is coming to support me later in life.
They always tell me:
“Don’t focus too much on saving. Spend, scale, build bigger, get more clients.”
And maybe they’re right.
But honestly, I don’t know.
The biggest confusion for me is partnership.
They strongly believe:
“A single person can only go to a certain level alone. Big money comes from teams and partnerships.”
And logically, I understand that.
But emotionally, I feel the complete opposite.
Even if I could make more money through partnership, I still feel like I would rather build something independently.
In my mind I always think:
Why give ownership away when eventually I can hire skilled people myself?
For example:
If someday I grow bigger, can’t I just hire employees instead of sharing equity or ownership?
At the same time, maybe I’m immature and thinking too emotionally because of my age and background.
Another issue:
Now that I got this US opportunity, I also fear losing my original role because my employers clearly told me:
“If you focus more there, eventually we’ll need someone else because our own work will suffer.”
Which honestly is fair from their side too.
So now I feel mentally stuck between:
I genuinely want practical advice from people who are ahead in business or life.
Would genuinely appreciate honest opinions.
Hi, hope everyone is doing well
Sorry for long description but kindly advice me
I’m 18 years old from Lahore and working in digital marketing.
From the outside, my life probably looks exciting. Right now I’m earning around 215K PKR monthly, and recently I also got an opportunity connected to a US client paying around $8/hour.
But mentally, I feel extremely confused about my future, business, partnerships, and what kind of life I actually want.
I started my journey at 17 when I applied for jobs on Indeed and joined a startup marketing agency run by two childhood friends. Initially they hired me at 40K PKR, later increased it to 60K.
Over time, I became deeply involved in the company and basically became their right hand.
One of the founders brought in an international agency project/client, and I was heavily involved in handling the execution and communication side of that work. After some months, I started joining calls with those clients directly.
Then one day, one of the US clients from that agency work personally offered me another opportunity worth around $1200/month.
I accepted it, but I didn’t want to hide anything from my employers because they genuinely trusted me and treated me well. So instead of secretly doing things behind their back, I told them honestly and asked for some compensation/adjustment.
Thankfully, they respected that and agreed.
The problem now is not money.
It’s direction.
The two founders are around 28–30 years old, while I’m only 18. Their mindset is completely different from mine.
They believe in:
But I come from a very unsupportive family background, so my mindset is completely different.
Deep inside, I don’t think about scaling first.
I think about:
Because realistically, I know nobody is coming to support me later in life.
They always tell me:
“Don’t focus too much on saving. Spend, scale, build bigger, get more clients.”
And maybe they’re right.
But honestly, I don’t know.
The biggest confusion for me is partnership.
They strongly believe:
“A single person can only go to a certain level alone. Big money comes from teams and partnerships.”
And logically, I understand that.
But emotionally, I feel the complete opposite.
Even if I could make more money through partnership, I still feel like I would rather build something independently.
In my mind I always think:
Why give ownership away when eventually I can hire skilled people myself?
For example:
If someday I grow bigger, can’t I just hire employees instead of sharing equity or ownership?
At the same time, maybe I’m immature and thinking too emotionally because of my age and background.
Another issue:
Now that I got this US opportunity, I also fear losing my original role because my employers clearly told me:
“If you focus more there, eventually we’ll need someone else because our own work will suffer.”
Which honestly is fair from their side too.
So now I feel mentally stuck between:
I genuinely want practical advice from people who are ahead in business or life.
Would genuinely appreciate honest opinions.
Hi,
I hope you’re doing well.
I’m writing this because I’m honestly very worried and don’t know who to ask.
I’m 18 years old, and today for the first time in my life, I had sex. It was with a prostitute, and I used protection (a condom). I had never done anything like this before, so this is my first experience.
Now after it happened, I’m feeling extremely stressed and scared. I keep thinking about things like HIV or AIDS, and it’s making me anxious.
I’ve heard different things — some people say protection reduces the risk a lot, while others say there is still a chance. Because of this, I don’t know what is real and what is just fear.
Right now I’m:
I just want to ask honestly:
Is there a real risk in this situation, or am I overthinking?
Do I need to see a doctor or get tested? If yes, when should I do it?
Please don’t judge me — I know I made a mistake, and I’m already feeling very low about it. I just want proper guidance on what to do next.
Also, if possible, please approve this so I can get advice from others as well.
Thank you.
EDIT: I am in extreme depression and honestly i dont feel that my verginity i losed bcz i didnt feel anything at that time when i was doing, bcz i was doing with condom so idk
i extremely regret this, idk what to do
I hope you’re doing well.
I wanted to ask your opinion about something I’ve been thinking about — the idea of moving abroad through a freelance visa.
I’m currently working in digital marketing and trying to build my income online, so naturally the freelance visa option caught my attention.
I wanted to understand a few things from a practical point of view:
First, what do you think about freelance visas in general?
Are they actually a good and stable way to move and build a life abroad, or do they come with hidden challenges that people don’t usually talk about?
Second, is it realistically possible to eventually get citizenship in countries like Portugal or Germany through a freelance visa route?
Or is that path more complicated compared to other options?
And lastly, what do you think is easier in the long run for settling abroad:
coming on a study visa and then transitioning into work, or going directly through a freelance visa?
From the outside, freelance visas seem flexible, but I’m not sure how stable or practical they are when it comes to long-term plans like residency and citizenship.
also tell me if you have choice which visa you will choose??
I would really appreciate your honest and practical opinion on this.
Thank you for your time.
I hope you’re doing well.
I wanted to ask your opinion about something I’ve been thinking about — the idea of moving abroad through a freelance visa.
I’m currently working in digital marketing and trying to build my income online, so naturally the freelance visa option caught my attention.
I wanted to understand a few things from a practical point of view:
First, what do you think about freelance visas in general?
Are they actually a good and stable way to move and build a life abroad, or do they come with hidden challenges that people don’t usually talk about?
Second, is it realistically possible to eventually get citizenship in countries like Portugal or Germany through a freelance visa route?
Or is that path more complicated compared to other options?
And lastly, what do you think is easier in the long run for settling abroad:
coming on a study visa and then transitioning into work, or going directly through a freelance visa?
From the outside, freelance visas seem flexible, but I’m not sure how stable or practical they are when it comes to long-term plans like residency and citizenship.
I would really appreciate your honest and practical opinion on this.
Thank you for your time.
Hi,
I hope you’re doing well.
I wanted to ask your honest opinion about Germany, because right now I feel very confused about it.
I come from a non-supportive family background, so my main goal is to move abroad and build something on my own. Germany is one of the main options I’m considering — mainly because of free or low-cost education and its overall reputation.
But at the same time, it also feels like a risky decision to me.
One of my biggest concerns is taxes. I keep hearing that taxes are extremely high, sometimes around 40–50%, which feels very heavy. On top of that, people say the system is very complex, with a lot of bureaucracy and slow processes.
Another thing that confuses me is that I’ve seen people (especially locals) saying that Germany is declining, and some are even leaving. That makes me question — if locals are leaving, then why should someone like me go there?
I also hear that:
Now, here’s the most important part of my thinking:
One of the main reasons I’m considering Germany is the language advantage. German is spoken in multiple wealthy countries like Switzerland, Austria, Luxembourg, and Germany itself. So in my mind, it feels like if I learn German properly, it could open doors to bigger opportunities and higher-paying clients across multiple countries.
Since I’m in digital marketing and want to build a business (not just do a job), I think about things like:
So I see German not just as a country decision, but as access to a whole region.
But at the same time, I’m also questioning myself:
Is this thinking realistic, or am I being delusional?
Is it actually possible to work with high-end clients from countries like Switzerland in marketing or other fields just because I know the language?
Or is it much harder than it looks from the outside?
My goal is not just to survive abroad, but to grow and build something meaningful long-term.
So I’m really confused between what looks like opportunity and what might actually be a difficult reality.
I would really appreciate your honest and practical opinion on this.
Thank you.
I don’t know how to say this without feeling like I’m doing something wrong.
I’m 18. I earn around $800/month, and it’s growing. From the outside, it probably looks like I’m doing okay.
But inside my house… it feels like I’m suffocating every single day.
My mom cries 24/7.
Every time I sit with her, she talks about how my father ruined her life, how she suffered, how she stayed silent and “sehti rahi.” Sometimes she even asks for death (Allah maaf kare). She’s 53 and still has to ask permission to go anywhere. She doesn’t even get pocket money. My father treats her like she has no value… like she’s controlled.
And I just sit there… listening… absorbing everything.
My father is extremely emotionless. He doesn’t support us—me, my mom, or my sister. No emotional support, no financial support like a normal father. It feels like living with someone who doesn’t care at all… almost like a narcissistic personality.
I love my mom. She’s my mother.
But I’m not okay either.
Every time I sit with her, I leave feeling extremely depressed. It’s like her pain enters me. My heart feels like it’s crying with blood… but I can’t even cry properly.
And something I feel guilty even thinking—
Sometimes when I’m finally a little happy… I don’t want to sit with her. I just want to protect my peace. But then I feel like I’m a horrible son.
I give her money when I can. I want to support her.
But then I think… what about my future? Am I supposed to carry everything right now at 18?
And there’s one more thing I can’t stop thinking about…
Sometimes I feel like maybe when I get married, I’ll finally experience peace.
Like I’ll have a life I never imagined… calm, love, emotional safety.
To the married people here—
Is that true? Does marriage actually bring that kind of peace?
Or am I just trying to escape my current life?
I feel stuck between two things:
Being a good son… and saving myself.
And I honestly don’t know how to do both.
What should I do about my mom?
How do I deal with all this without losing myself?
I hope you’re doing well.
I wanted to ask your opinion about something I’ve been thinking about — the idea of moving abroad through a freelance visa.
I’m currently working in digital marketing and trying to build my income online, so naturally the freelance visa option caught my attention.
I wanted to understand a few things from a practical point of view:
First, what do you think about freelance visas in general?
Are they actually a good and stable way to move and build a life abroad, or do they come with hidden challenges that people don’t usually talk about?
Second, is it realistically possible to eventually get citizenship in countries like Portugal or Germany through a freelance visa route?
Or is that path more complicated compared to other options?
And lastly, what do you think is easier in the long run for settling abroad:
coming on a study visa and then transitioning into work, or going directly through a freelance visa?
From the outside, freelance visas seem flexible, but I’m not sure how stable or practical they are when it comes to long-term plans like residency and citizenship.
I would really appreciate your honest and practical opinion on this.
Thank you for your time.
I’m from Pakistan and currently finishing my 12th (board exams). I’m honestly very confused about my next step and need real advice.
The situation is a bit different. I’m already working in digital marketing and earning from it. Because of that, most of my focus went into my work instead of studies.
As a result, I’ll probably end up with around 400 marks in my board exams, which I know is not good.
Now I’m stuck and don’t understand what to do next.
One option I’m thinking about is:
Should I take a 1–2 year gap, focus on my work, build my income properly, and then try for Germany or another country for bachelor’s?
But the problem is:
With these low marks, is it even possible to get admission in a German university?
Or will these grades completely block that path?
If I wait and improve my situation, then:
which universities or countries would even make sense for someone like me?
The second option is:
don’t wait and take admission in Pakistan in BBA ( From virtual uni )
But then I feel the same issue will continue:
So I feel stuck between both paths.
Also, I’m already confused between BBA ( from virtual university ) vs LLB:
But with low marks and low CGPA risk, I don’t know if BBA will even help me much.
So my main questions are:
I’m from Pakistan and currently finishing my 12th (board exams). I’m honestly very confused about my next step and need real advice.
The situation is a bit different. I’m already working in digital marketing and earning from it. Because of that, most of my focus went into my work instead of studies.
As a result, I’ll probably end up with around 400 marks in my board exams, which I know is not good.
Now I’m stuck and don’t understand what to do next.
One option I’m thinking about is:
Should I take a 1–2 year gap, focus on my work, build my income properly, and then try for Germany or another country for bachelor’s?
But the problem is:
With these low marks, is it even possible to get admission in a German university?
Or will these grades completely block that path?
If I wait and improve my situation, then:
which universities or countries would even make sense for someone like me?
The second option is:
don’t wait and take admission in Pakistan in BBA ( From virtual uni )
But then I feel the same issue will continue:
So I feel stuck between both paths.
Also, I’m already confused between BBA ( from virtual university ) vs LLB:
But with low marks and low CGPA risk, I don’t know if BBA will even help me much.
So my main questions are:
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I am from Pakistan. I wanted to talk about something I am genuinely confused about — moving abroad now vs moving after a few years of building myself.
I am working in the IT sector. My actual salary is around 60K PKR, but this month I will earn around 200K PKR InshaAllah from a client. I am still in the early stage of my career.
I really want to go abroad, but I am stuck between two paths.
The first option is to move abroad after saving for around 2 years. In this case, I would go to Europe or the US and start my life there directly. The benefit of this is that I can start early, get exposure, and slowly build my future there. I might also get my passport journey started earlier. But the challenge is that I will be going with zero stability and everything will be on me from day one — rent, bills, survival, everything.
The second option is to first build my IT career or business in Pakistan. I can focus on growing my income to around 2K–3K USD monthly, and then move abroad with some financial stability. The advantage of this is that I will not be under pressure to immediately find a job abroad. But the risk is also real — freelancing and client work is not stable. Clients can leave anytime, projects can stop, and there is no guarantee that I will actually reach that level.
Another thing I want to explain is my current situation. In Pakistan, I don’t have many responsibilities on my shoulders right now. My father is still handling most family responsibilities. But if I move abroad, everything will come on me completely. I don’t have an issue with responsibility — I am just trying to understand the difference in reality between both situations.
Also, if I don’t go now, realistically I might go at 24–25 years of age. I am not sure if that is still a good age to start life abroad or if it becomes harder at that point.
On the other hand, I also hear that moving abroad later with a wife becomes even more difficult, so I am also thinking about that side too.
So overall, I feel stuck because both options have clear pros and cons:
Option 1 (move early):
Start life abroad early
Get exposure and experience
Begin settling process earlier
But high pressure from day one and starting from zero
Option 2 (build first then move):
Better financial stability before moving
Less pressure initially abroad
More preparation and confidence
But risk of unstable income and delay in moving
I just want honest opinions on what makes more sense in my situation. I don’t want theory — I want practical advice based on reality.
I’m from Pakistan, and I like researching different countries because I want to understand where life is actually better - not based on hype, but reality. I’m naturally curious about how people live in different parts of the world and what kind of life is actually possible.
Recently, I started looking into the US. Like a lot of people, my interest came from Hollywood, games like GTA, and movies
But when I started researching more deeply, things got confusing.
From what I see and read, the US has a lot of serious issues:
So I don’t really understand
If all of this is true, then why do so many people still choose to move to the US? What exactly makes it worth leaving your home country?
From the outside, it honestly feels like life there could be very stressful compared to how it’s usually shown.
At the same time, when I compare it to Europe — especially Scandinavian countries — those places seem more balanced. Better systems, better quality of life, less chaos overall.
So what’s the truth?
Is the US kind of overrated and mostly driven by hype and exposure, or is there something deeper that people don’t fully see from the outside?
Would really appreciate honest perspectives, especially from people who have lived there.
I’m from Pakistan, and I like researching different countries because I want to understand where life is actually better - not based on hype, but reality. I’m naturally curious about how people live in different parts of the world and what kind of life is actually possible.
Recently, I started looking into the US. Like a lot of people, my interest came from Hollywood, games like GTA, and movies
But when I started researching more deeply, things got confusing.
From what I see and read, the US has a lot of serious issues:
So I don’t really understand
If all of this is true, then why do so many people still choose to move to the US? What exactly makes it worth leaving your home country?
From the outside, it honestly feels like life there could be very stressful compared to how it’s usually shown.
At the same time, when I compare it to Europe — especially Scandinavian countries — those places seem more balanced. Better systems, better quality of life, less chaos overall.
So what’s the truth?
Is the US kind of overrated and mostly driven by hype and exposure, or is there something deeper that people don’t fully see from the outside?
Would really appreciate honest perspectives, especially from people who have lived there.
I’m 18 and from Pakistan. I come from a pretty toxic/narcissistic family, and honestly, I feel like I’m on my own in life.
I started working in digital marketing and was earning around 60K PKR. Recently, something big happened. While working, I was dealing with a US client, and she offered me to work directly with her. I accepted, but I didn’t want to risk my job, so I told my employer everything. At first, he got upset, but then we negotiated and he agreed.
This month I’m going to make around $800 (~200K PKR), which is huge for me.
At the same time, I’ve been applying for international jobs. I went through interviews, tests, and now I’m one of the final 3 candidates for a role that pays around $10/hour (with potential increase to $12–$15). It can become full-time too. On top of that, I might also get an internship paying around $400/month.
If everything works out, I could be making:
Which honestly feels unreal to me.
But here’s the problem.
I can’t talk to anyone about this.
My father is extremely narcissistic. If he finds out I’m earning even 200K, he’ll dump responsibilities on me and completely step back. He already doesn’t financially support us properly. So telling him is not an option.
I can’t tell my mother either. Not in a bad way, but I know it will lead to unnecessary spending or pressure. My sister knows a little, but not everything.
So I’m just… alone with all of this.
And another issue — in the past 6 months, I earned around 350K PKR total. And I have no idea where it went. I’m literally at zero again right now. I’ll get paid at the end of this month, but currently I have nothing saved.
It honestly scares me. Like how does money just disappear like that?
I don’t know how to manage money, how to save, or how to invest. I’m not into crypto or “get rich quick” stuff. I believe in slow, long-term growth, but I don’t know where to start.
I also feel this weird loneliness. I have no one to talk to about money, work, or life. Either people get jealous, or I worry about nazar, or they start expecting something from me.
I just want to build something for myself and secure my future because I know I can’t rely on anyone.
If anyone here has been in a similar situation — starting early, earning young, but feeling lost — I’d really appreciate advice.
How do you: